Staying together for the sake of the Kids?

1: Me and my wife have discovered that we no longer have anything in
common.
2: I can't promise her the support that she wants out of me, due to
not knowing who I am from one day to the next. For example being happy
and optimistic one day and pessimistic another day.
3: I can't take this mental problem of mine, it really gets in the way
of everything. Work, relationship. Due to being on ant-psychotics and
anti-depressants, I feel like as one person said on here, like I'm
watching a TV and I'm not part of the drama.
4: I can't take the decision as to if I should return to the UK or
stay for the kids. There is benefit to both choices. Maybe in the UK
I'll get the care I need. Where as here nobody understands me or my
condition.

The bottom line is, I CAN'T MAKE A JUSTIFIED DECISION ONE WAY OR
ANOTHER!

Can I be so bold as have some of you in my position, and make that
decision for me?

Ignore the above if you think it's too intense a request. Maybe you
views would be better.

:Sigh: What to do! What to do!

PS I have a friend at work is in the same position, minus the mental
illness. He stays in Durban, yet his family is in Joburg. He asked me
where he should be. I said you have nothing keeping you here go back
to Joburg.

Yet who am I to be giving advice, when I can't even make a decision on
my own. Maybe my decision is a hard one. Who knows? Who cares? FUCK
IT!

PPS Like Richard Ashcroft said "I'm a million different people from
one day to the next!"

On Jul 21, 8:15*am, ChrisC <chrisp...@googlemail.com> wrote:
> 1: Me and my wife have discovered that we no longer have anything in
> common.
> 2: I can't promise her the support that she wants out of me, due to
> not knowing who I am from one day to the next. For example being happy
> and optimistic one day and pessimistic another day.
> 3: I can't take this mental problem of mine, it really gets in the way
> of everything. Work, relationship. Due to being on ant-psychotics and
> anti-depressants, I feel like as one person said on here, like I'm
> watching a TV and I'm not part of the drama.
> 4: I can't take the decision as to if I should return to the UK or
> stay for the kids. There is benefit to both choices. Maybe in the UK
> I'll get the care I need. Where as here nobody understands me or my
> condition.
>
> The bottom line is, I CAN'T MAKE A JUSTIFIED DECISION ONE WAY OR
> ANOTHER!
>
> Can I be so bold as have some of you in my position, and make that
> decision for me?
>
> Ignore the above if you think it's too intense a request. Maybe you
> views would be better.
>
> :Sigh: What to do! What to do!
>
> PS I have a friend at work is in the same position, minus the mental
> illness. He stays in Durban, yet his family is in Joburg. He asked me
> where he should be. I said you have nothing keeping you here go back
> to Joburg.
>
> Yet who am I to be giving advice, when I can't even make a decision on
> my own. Maybe my decision is a hard one. Who knows? Who cares? FUCK
> IT!
>
> PPS Like Richard Ashcroft said "I'm a million different people from
> one day to the next!"

I have now put in motion. A support group which meets every 3rd
Saturday. However, the husband and wife who run the thing do so
because there son is schizophrenic. So it's a charitable thing. So
they have agreed to come round and talk to us both. Bearing in mind
that these people have been dealing with these situations for over 20
years, this sounds promising.

What the hell, worth a shot don't you think everyone???