Celebration or disappointment?

I'm just back from seeing the medical oncologist and being fondled. That
clinic visit alternates with the surgeon's, the mammogram comes somewhere
between so I see the team three times a year.

This morning lovely Dr Kumar said that she'll see me in a year's time and
think about discharging me; my diagnosis and surgery were in 1998.

My heart sank a little, I've become fond of all the clinic personnel and
look forward to seeing them. Yet I should be celebrating!

<sigh>

Perhaps my head should be examined :-)

Mary

On Mon, 12 Mar 2007 10:32:13 -0000, "Mary Fisher"
<mary.fisher@zetnet.co.uk> wrote:

>I'm just back from seeing the medical oncologist and being fondled. That
>clinic visit alternates with the surgeon's, the mammogram comes somewhere
>between so I see the team three times a year.
>
>This morning lovely Dr Kumar said that she'll see me in a year's time and
>think about discharging me; my diagnosis and surgery were in 1998.
>
>My heart sank a little, I've become fond of all the clinic personnel and
>look forward to seeing them. Yet I should be celebrating!
>
><sigh>
>
>Perhaps my head should be examined :-)
>
>Mary

I know what you mean. My oncologist, also named Dr Kumar, left the
hospital several months ago. According to rumours because he wanted to
try a new treatment on patients and wasn't given permission. So now
there is only one oncologist for the whole health region. I feel a
little bereft.

I still visit another oncology unit in a larger city once a year, but
see an intern, not that there is anything wrong with that, and I expect
my next visit will be my last as it will be five years after the end of
threatment.

But we'll always have you guys!

Marilyn

PS Mary, I'm writing - have had computer problems

>My heart sank a little, I've become fond of all
> the clinic personnel and look forward to
> seeing them. Yet I should be celebrating!

>sgh>

>Perhaps my head should be examined :-)

>Mary

You have to ASK?? I think they must have fondled your "head" too long,
Mary! It's CELEBRATION time!! I'm raising my Coca Cola to you!

An Oncologist is one doctor I don't think I will ever get so fond of
that I won't be dancing on the ceiling when MY discharge day ever
arrives! My doc is a nice guy but he is one doc I am eager to say
goodbye too.

You are "free at last"! Congratulations! You made it!

Bea

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"Bea Oo" <pm95sb@webtv.net> wrote in message
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>
>>My heart sank a little, I've become fond of all
>> the clinic personnel and look forward to
>> seeing them. Yet I should be celebrating!
>
>>sgh>
>
>>Perhaps my head should be examined :-)
>
>>Mary
>
> You have to ASK??

I didn't ask, just reported :-)

> I think they must have fondled your "head" too long,

My head was seen to in 1993, I was sorry when those clinic visits came to an
end too.

> Mary! It's CELEBRATION time!! I'm raising my Coca Cola to you!

Thanks! I'll raise my glass of wine to you tonight!

.... but they're all such nice people.
>
> An Oncologist is one doctor I don't think I will ever get so fond of
> that I won't be dancing on the ceiling when MY discharge day ever
> arrives! My doc is a nice guy but he is one doc I am eager to say
> goodbye too.
>
> You are "free at last"! Congratulations! You made it!

I don't think I explained well enough :-) Relationships have been built
with all the staff and I look forward to seeing them, they're part of life's
extended circle. It's one of my problems, I get too involved with people.
When all around me were cheering and burning their school ties I didn't want
to leave school so I went back on the staff.

I think the medics will miss me too, after ten years ...

You're right of course, that I should be glad that there are no (apparent)
signs of cancer. People are important though and I owe so much to them.

Hugs,

Mary

Oh Mary,
I am so so pleased for you.I hope ' my story 'pans out just like yours.
Love
Kathleen
"Mary Fisher" <mary.fisher@zetnet.co.uk> wrote in message
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> I'm just back from seeing the medical oncologist and being fondled. That
> clinic visit alternates with the surgeon's, the mammogram comes somewhere
> between so I see the team three times a year.
>
> This morning lovely Dr Kumar said that she'll see me in a year's time and
> think about discharging me; my diagnosis and surgery were in 1998.
>
> My heart sank a little, I've become fond of all the clinic personnel and
> look forward to seeing them. Yet I should be celebrating!
>
> <sigh>
>
> Perhaps my head should be examined :-)
>
> Mary
>
>
>

"Mary Fisher" <mary.fisher@zetnet.co.uk> wrote in message
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>
> I don't think I explained well enough :-) Relationships have been built
> with all the staff and I look forward to seeing them, they're part of
> life's extended circle. It's one of my problems, I get too involved with
> people. When all around me were cheering and burning their school ties I
> didn't want to leave school so I went back on the staff.
>
> I think the medics will miss me too, after ten years ...
>
> You're right of course, that I should be glad that there are no (apparent)
> signs of cancer. People are important though and I owe so much to them.
>

I'll bet they wouldn't fuss too much if you stopped in every now & again to
bring them a little treat, or a bouquet of lovely flowers for the office . .
.. .

Ann T.
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> This morning lovely Dr Kumar said that she'll see me in a year's time and
> think about discharging me; my diagnosis and surgery were in 1998.
>
> My heart sank a little, I've become fond of all the clinic personnel and
> look forward to seeing them. Yet I should be celebrating!
>
> <sigh>
>
> Perhaps my head should be examined :-)
>
> Mary
>

That is wonderful news, I can understand you missing the doctor though......

Hello Mary,

That is wonderful news! My oncologist released me after twenty years, a few
years ago and I know exactly what you mean. I made him promise that if I
needed an oncologist again, I wouldn't get shifted to another Dr. I still
drop them a card at Christmas, and have run into him at the grocery. I
think it would be really nice if you could stop by once in a while....The
staff does become like extended family. I think they like seeing long term
survivors too!

Congratulations to you, dear Mary!

Barb

"alex" <alex@noemail.com> wrote in message
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>> This morning lovely Dr Kumar said that she'll see me in a year's time and
>> think about discharging me; my diagnosis and surgery were in 1998.
>>
>> My heart sank a little, I've become fond of all the clinic personnel and
>> look forward to seeing them. Yet I should be celebrating!
>>
>> <sigh>
>>
>> Perhaps my head should be examined :-)
>>
>> Mary
>>
>
> That is wonderful news, I can understand you missing the doctor
> though......

Thanks to everyone!

On another note, the other week I was rung to ask if I'd go to another
town's hospital for my overdue hysteroscopy because there was a backlog. I
agreed and was given today's date.

I starved from 7 pm yesterday, had no breakfast and only small drinks
because I was to have a general.

When I got there it was just to mee the surgeon - not to have any more
investigation than verbal and a manual. He arranged for me to have the
surgery next Monday, the day before my birthday.

In the admissions office I was told that I'd have to go for a pre-assessment
despite my already having one in my home city, the second hospital wouldn't
accept that. OK, it was last September so I didn't protest. That will be
tomorrow - at 9 am - I've usually only just got out of bed by then!

Worse, the surgery will be at 7.30 am next Monday <sob> - I have an hour's
drive too.

Pass the matchsticks! (to prop open my eyelids in case someone doesn't know
that expression).

My diary seems to be full of clinic visits of one kind or another this month
:-)

Mary


>
>

A yearly donation to the charity of your choice, in their honor, is a
nice way to remember them and remind them that you are thinking of
them and appreciate all they have done for you. Most charities will
notify the honored person.
>

I want to know whether you're bragging or complaining about the
fondling part.

'-)

"Mapoftheworld" <daviduttal@gmail.com> wrote in message
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>A yearly donation to the charity of your choice, in their honor, is a
> nice way to remember them and remind them that you are thinking of
> them and appreciate all they have done for you. Most charities will
> notify the honored person.

I agree.

I've been doing that since I was diagnosed. Another charity I support
regularly is in gratitude for the life-saving surgery I had from a
neurosurgeon.


Mary

"allan" <wizard10000@gmail.com> wrote in message
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>I want to know whether you're bragging or complaining about the
> fondling part.
>
> '-)

Not complaining!You have to get your kicks where you can :-)

Haven't heard much from you recently, how are things?

Hugs,

Mary
>
>

On Mar 14, 8:45 am, "Mary Fisher" <mary.fis...@zetnet.co.uk> wrote:

> Haven't heard much from you recently, how are things?

Doing pretty well, Mary. As I said in the other thread it looks lilke
it's almost time for a treatment change - Deborah's having some issues
with fluid retention but a diuretic and some potassium supplements
have helped considerably. Life is good.

Hope things are going well for you and Spouse as well.

hugs -

"allan" <wizard10000@gmail.com> wrote in message
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> On Mar 14, 8:45 am, "Mary Fisher" <mary.fis...@zetnet.co.uk> wrote:
>
>> Haven't heard much from you recently, how are things?
>
> Doing pretty well, Mary. As I said in the other thread it looks lilke
> it's almost time for a treatment change - Deborah's having some issues
> with fluid retention but a diuretic and some potassium supplements
> have helped considerably. Life is good.
>
> Hope things are going well for you and Spouse as well.

I'll report off group - don't want to frighten the horses :-)

Mary

I read somewhere that the end of treatment is often a time of depression
for patients....they have been so focused on their goal that when it is gone
they have to redirect, and yes, they have to say goodbye to people who have
become "family."\

"Mary Fisher" <mary.fisher@zetnet.co.uk> wrote in message
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> I'm just back from seeing the medical oncologist and being fondled. That
> clinic visit alternates with the surgeon's, the mammogram comes
somewhere
> between so I see the team three times a year.
>
> This morning lovely Dr Kumar said that she'll see me in a year's time
and
> think about discharging me; my diagnosis and surgery were in 1998.
>
> My heart sank a little, I've become fond of all the clinic personnel and
> look forward to seeing them. Yet I should be celebrating!
>
> <sigh>
>
> Perhaps my head should be examined :-)
>
> Mary
>
>
>

"fortunata" <pacifist@gmail.com> wrote in message
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>
> I read somewhere that the end of treatment is often a time of depression
> for patients....they have been so focused on their goal that when it is
> gone they have to redirect, and yes, they have to say goodbye to people
> who have become "family."\

Well, in my case I haven't had any treatment for almost five years. I never
had a goal either :-) But I was never depressed and I daresay I'll manage to
survive without the team - just as they'll have to survive without me :-)

But I'm not normal - whatever that is - nor average, apparently.

Thank goodness! Life's too good to waste it worrying or being depressed.
There was no point in my having a goal to focus on, that was the medical
team's job, I just did what they told me to do. It doesn't happen often ...

Mary