bouncer1 wrote:
> hi i would like to sy that back in december 2006 i was diagnosed as having
> melonoma in my foot and had to have 2 toes amputed after a few check ups i
> was told that i was all clear then a routine ct scan showed that it had
> spread to my right groin i have had the operation to remove the 11 glands in
> my leg but what i cannot understand is that i have not been affected by any
> of it is it because that my closest releatives have died from some sort of
> cancer and i was there from the start to the end the only time it hit was at
> the weekend when my 9 year old daughter was singing in a concert and i
> thought that there is a good chance that i might not see this ever again.also
> i would like to no what stage of melonoma i was at im not sure if it was
> stage 3 or stage 4
Hello and welcome to alt.support.cancer, bouncer.
Toe amputation eh? Which toes please? (me wondering how the walking goes).
They would not have done that for my cousin. His first appeared on or near his
elbow.
My cousin went on, in blissful ignorance, which was quality of life for him,
until a recurrence occurred.
I guess they hope the melanoma won't spread further, by removing the lymph nodes
and/or have done what they call "expectant palliation”. In this way, they can
tell you you're currently clinically disease-free.
I would thiink that spread to the pelvis is Stage 4. Melanoma does occasionally
have an almost unique propensity to metastasize sequentially.
It's hard to know the right way to reply to people. John, from Australia is here,
with mets (spread) and feeling somewhat betrayed by doctors who (he thinks) did
not tell him the truth.
I hope you'll stay and get to know us and us you and perhaps be of support to and
get from john as well. Balance in important as well, since you've got a 9 year
old daughter, who I expect you'll want to spend as much fun time with and teach
her all you know about males. (well, perhaps not all, but give her tools for
coping and protecting herself from the "wolves" as she ages). If you were a wolf
in sheep's clothing, all the better to tell her what to beware of. I think
fathers are little girls "first love" and why it's so important for fathers to be
models for their children (not perfect) but talk with them about boundaries and
dreams of what they can be, as they become adults; the President, an airline
pilot, a space explorer, a missionary RN in a third world country, a powerful
business owner; a writer, a researcher, a carpenter, a lover of people and/or art
and/or languages, the sky's the limit for any child who wants it, dreams
possibilities and is prepared to work for it, eh ? [off my soapbox now]
I hope you'll keep in close touch with us, and share your life's happenings as
they occur. But make the most of every day. So important.
Now it's your turn to speak.
J
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