Newby back again ... help

"Figgertoes" <me@privacy.net> wrote in message
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> "Giuditta" <jmarrs@myspeedworks.com> wrote in
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>> "Figgertoes" <me@privacy.net> wrote in message
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>>>J <ercent@anon.inv> wrote in news:4557CF81.EF76A8A5@execulink.com:
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>>>> Giuditta wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> "J" <ercent@anon.inv> wrote in message
>>>>> > Giuditta wrote:
>>>>> >
>>>>> >> How did your husband beat the prognosis, if you don't mind me
>>>>> >> asking?
>>>>> >
>>>>> > Her husband had a different type of lung cancer.
>>>>> > J
>>>>>
>>>>> What type?
>>>>
>>>> NSCLC (non small cell lung cancer)
>>>> It's treated with surgery, if possible and radiation therapy, if
>>>> possible and adjuvant chemotherapy.
>>>> I think that's the type that Betsy had (has).
>>>> J
>>>>
>>>>
>>>
>>> But Socks was not a candidate for surgery.
>>
>> Neither is my husband. Why is that?
>>
>> G
>>
> G,
>
> I see J answered for me. I'm grateful for that.
>
> Your husband may have radiation later if certain kinds of pain can be
> alleviated. When used this way, it is not curative. It did help Socks
> though. Bone pain can be relentless.
>
> I travel & am not always near a computer. So if I drop out of sight
> sometimes, please know I still care & will be back.
>
> How are things going? How are you? I hope you get some time off for
> Thanksgiving. Socks really got into Thanksgiving (even when he wasn't
> eating so well otherwise) & then didn't give me a moment's peace until
> the leftovers were transformed into turkey enchiladas. He even helped me
> assemble them. It was great fun & made a big, happy mess in the kitchen.
>
> Even with cancer in the family, there is much to be thankful for this
> season. You have each other & your love. You are surrounded by people
> who care about you. And you have medical care. I hope you find some way
> to enjoy your Thanksgiving day without wearing yourself out!
>
> Hugs to you,
> Fig .


I really needed that. Thanks. The down in the dumps stuff can't be helping
anyone...I'm a real drag lately when I should be praising God my husband is
feeling better...it's fear I think.

Your Socks is such a colorful character, the things you say when you
describe him. You should write a book.

Have a blessed Thanksgiving!
Giuditta

Giuditta wrote:

> I am trying to figure out how to get out of this depressed mood...I should
> be so happy that my husband is still here, but it's like a cloud hanging
> there, putting a damper on everything. Cooking for Thanksgiving wasn't the
> same and I sure can't get into a Christmas spirit...but I know I need to for
> him and for our family...how does one do that?

Well G, a mild anti-depressant might help.
How to get through.
Carry on with life as best you can and do everything possible to help your
husband enjoy his time lieft.
I think that's what Penny's family did.
Start reading around December here
http://pensclc.blogspot.com/2005_11_...c_archive.html
Hugs
J

"Giuditta" <jmarrs@myspeedworks.com> wrote in message
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> Thanks for the kind words...yay, I'm not crazy just a but insane right
> now. Your husband is blessed and doing well, and it just goes to show that
> one just never knows...
>
> I am trying to figure out how to get out of this depressed mood...I should
> be so happy that my husband is still here, but it's like a cloud hanging
> there, putting a damper on everything. Cooking for Thanksgiving wasn't the
> same and I sure can't get into a Christmas spirit...but I know I need to
> for him and for our family...how does one do that?
>

Well, as a member of the Paxil club, I firmly believe that getting medical
help for mental problems is a smart thing to do. I also believe in putting
on a strong smile and toughing it out when needed. sure I get depressed at
the thought that Rob and I probably won't grow old together, but he needs me
now. So when I have to, I put on a happy smile and do whatever I can to
make life easier for him. It isn't the same for me, but so long as it is
happy for him, I'm content.

Pam S.

"Giuditta" <jmarrs@myspeedworks.com> wrote in message
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>
> Thanks again!!! I've found that wellbutrin helps me a bit and if I get
> really anxious, I will take a xanex...
>
> Do you think HST was as nuts as he wanted people to think he was? He said
> if he did as many drugs as he talked about doing that he wouldn't be
> alive. Since I am a writer, it's more the writing skills I admire than the
> person because, hey, I never knew the man...
>
> God Bless, Peace Out and Happy Thanksgiving!
>

Thanks, I hope you had a blessed Thanksgiving too.

About Hunter S. Thompson. I really haven't read much of his work. Ernest
Hemmingway, who suffered from severe chronic depression, was more of my type
of writer. He was awesome at expressing complex situations and emotions
using a simplistic style. Which is a relief after reading F. Scott
Fitzgerald and William Faulkner.

I find that I like some writer's short works better than their novels. I
think Melville's short stories are better written and more significant than
his novels, and I actually like them. Needless to say, I'm not a fan of his
novels.

My American Literature survey teacher removed Allan Ginsberg from the
reading list this year. I asked him why as Ginsberg was the father to a
whole style of writing. He agreed with me, but said that a little Ginsberg
went an awfully long way. I can't say much, I agree with him, but I would
have loved a chance to pull Ginsberg apart and see what made him tick.

Pam S. wishing you the best

"Giuditta" <jmarrs@myspeedworks.com> wrote in message
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> Hi again...I started another post because didn't know if this one was
> getting too long and would disappear like I have had some do in the past.
> No, I think I made two other posts ... oh well, I'm a bit nutty right now,
> so please excuse me. So much as happened lately...oh, did I miss
> something...what's up with the fur hat? Sounds wonderful though.
>
> Just got home yesterday from a four-day hospital stay with my hubby. We've
> been married 30 years and never had a honeymoon, so I told him this would
> have to be it...he laughed. Glad he still has his sense of humor. He seems
> better now; the chemo just zapped his WBC count, and set him up for
> infection...it's up to normal now they say, and he's even got an appetite,
> so maybe we can fill him up during Thanksgiving to prep him for next
> week's chemo.
>
> I just want to wish you all a blessed and peaceful Thanksgiving ... I
> thank you all for the support you've given me here.
>

Hang in there. Humor helps a lot. I joke that Rob would think that he was
dying if we ever stopped joking with and about him. He jokes right back.
the other day he helped our daughter Amanda's boyfriend stick an ice cube in
my bed while I was asleep. It was a frigid awakening. Around our
house...don't bend over without looking behind you first.

Regarding the Russian hat: Figgertoes has one that Socks used to wear. Rob
loves hats and needs hats to help keep his nuts and bolts that are holding
the titanium plates to this head warm. He sleeps wearing various kinds of
head gear, including Santa Claus hats. We were talking about keeping our
loved ones with cancer warm and the hats came up. Figgertoes (after
guidance from Socks, I suspect) decided that the Russian hat would be a
great gift for Rob. So I finally got her our address and hopefully the hat
is in the mail. I'll have to post a picture somewhere of Rob wearing the
hat, but please don't warn him in advance, ok? He's not shy or anything,
but I don't want him clowning before the camera when I take the picture.

Pam S.

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> I am trying to figure out how to get out of this depressed mood...I should
> be so happy that my husband is still here, but it's like a cloud hanging
> there, putting a damper on everything. Cooking for Thanksgiving wasn't the
> same and I sure can't get into a Christmas spirit...but I know I need to
> for him and for our family...how does one do that?
> >
Giuditta,
Ativan is your friend.
Marsha