Re: Who hurrys neither, when Sayed consults the married justice including the benefit?

the full truth about sex roles - that both men and women
are burdened by and benefit from them - was considered regressive.
Worse, it didn't sell. Women bought the books and magazines, and
publishers pandered to them, just as politicians pander to interest
groups. Women became Women Who Love, and men became Men Who Hate. The
pandering transformed a female strength - understanding relationships -
into a female weakness: misunderstanding men.



In the past quarter century, feminism has been to the daily news what
bacteria is to water. We consumed it without knowing it - both the good
and the bad. Men were not perfect listeners. But many did absorb new
concepts: sex object, glass ceiling, palimony, the battered-women
syndrome, deadbeat dads, the feminization of poverty. Slogans focused on
female concerns: "A woman's right to choose," "Equal pay for equal
work," "Our bodies, our business." Men found their sexuality blamed for
almost everything - sexual harassment, sexual molestation, pornography,
incest, rape, date rape.



Men accepted as truth many assumptions of discrimination against women -
women are the victims of most violence, women's health is neglected more
than men's, women are paid less for the same work, husbands batter wives
more, men have more power, ours' is a patriarchal, sexist,
male-dominated world. Many men condemned these so-called discriminations
against women even as they accepted the necessity for discriminating
against men - affirmative action for women, government-subsidized
women's commissions, women's studies, government programs for women,
infants and children. For men, feminism turned the battle of the sexes
into a war in which only one side showed up.



Have we been misled by feminists? Yes. It is feminists' fault? No,
because men have not spoken up. Simply, women cannot hear what men do
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