my mother

#1 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.
if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
good.' so i just say that i'm alright.

now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>

-lisa

#2 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
> just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.
> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
> do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
> good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
>
> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>
>
> -lisa

i'm sorry lisa
that sucks
but try to remember it's just because she's your mom and she loves you
that's all

#3 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
> just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.

heh, i always say that to my mom as well, but it didn't take her long to
figure me out.

> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
> do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
> good.' so i just say that i'm alright.

she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?

> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>

tell her you aren't up for it. unless you are.

#4 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

"used2be" <used2be@nowhere.com> wrote in message
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>
>
> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
> news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
>> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
>> just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.
>
> heh, i always say that to my mom as well, but it didn't take her long to
> figure me out.

>
>> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
>> do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
>> good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
>
> she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?
>
>> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>
>
> tell her you aren't up for it. unless you are.

>
just do what you need to do
i know thats gotta be a drag though
moms
sigh
(I really miss mine though, my dad too)

#5 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

justabeing wrote...

>
> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
> news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
>>'i
>> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing
>> this with her. if i tell her what's really going on, she
>> tells me what i should do, including not going in for
>> treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that
>> i'm alright.
>>
>> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation.
>> <sigh>
>>
>> -lisa
>
> i'm sorry lisa
> that sucks
> but try to remember it's just because she's your mom and
> she loves you that's all

yeah, i know. what i don't like is that i can't tell my
father, who's fine, because he'll tell my mother and she'll
call me up to lecture me.

i talked to them after i got home from the hospital and they
said that i should have joe call them right away next time i'm
in the hospital so they can get in touch with me. joe said to
me 'that's the point of not telling them.'

at least they care. i just wish my mother could accept things
as they are.

-lisa

#6 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

used2be wrote...

>> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i
>> should do, including not going in for treatment because i
>> 'sound so good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
>
> she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?
>

i once told her i was about to start another round of partial
and she told me that i shouldn't go because i sounded good. she
needs to be in control of all situations. mostly, she just tells
me all the latest research showing why i should be taking
various supplements and asks every so often to make sure i'm
following that advice.

-lisa

#7 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns9867A726B64E2mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
> justabeing wrote...
>
>>
>> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
>> news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
>>>'i
>>> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
>>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing
>>> this with her. if i tell her what's really going on, she
>>> tells me what i should do, including not going in for
>>> treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that
>>> i'm alright.
>>>
>>> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation.
>>> <sigh>
>>>
>>> -lisa
>>
>> i'm sorry lisa
>> that sucks
>> but try to remember it's just because she's your mom and
>> she loves you that's all
>
> yeah, i know. what i don't like is that i can't tell my
> father, who's fine, because he'll tell my mother and she'll
> call me up to lecture me.
>
> i talked to them after i got home from the hospital and they
> said that i should have joe call them right away next time i'm
> in the hospital so they can get in touch with me. joe said to
> me 'that's the point of not telling them.'
>
> at least they care. i just wish my mother could accept things
> as they are.
>
> -lisa

very understandable, lisa
thats just got to be "the shits"
sorry you and your family have to go through that
(even though they do mean well)
sigh

#8 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns9867A7F4E8268mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
> used2be wrote...
>
>>> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i
>>> should do, including not going in for treatment because i
>>> 'sound so good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
>>
>> she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?
>>
>
> i once told her i was about to start another round of partial
> and she told me that i shouldn't go because i sounded good. she
> needs to be in control of all situations. mostly, she just tells
> me all the latest research showing why i should be taking
> various supplements and asks every so often to make sure i'm
> following that advice.

does she frown on medication and therapy and is more into the new age types
of treatments?

#9 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

used2be wrote...

>
> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
> news:Xns9867A7F4E8268mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>> used2be wrote...
>>
>>>> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what
>>>> i should do, including not going in for treatment
>>>> because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that i'm
>>>> alright.
>>>
>>> she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?
>>>
>>
>> i once told her i was about to start another round of
>> partial and she told me that i shouldn't go because i
>> sounded good. she needs to be in control of all
>> situations. mostly, she just tells me all the latest
>> research showing why i should be taking various
>> supplements and asks every so often to make sure i'm
>> following that advice.
>
> does she frown on medication and therapy and is more into
> the new age types of treatments?

not at all. she's chief scientific officer for a medical
research foundation, as well as being a lecturer at a major
med school. she's just been hearing lots of good new stuff
about various vitamins and supplements at lectures. then she
gets on me to take them.

-lisa

#10 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns9867AB3EDC10Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
> used2be wrote...
>
>>
>> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
>> news:Xns9867A7F4E8268mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>>> used2be wrote...
>>>
>>>>> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what
>>>>> i should do, including not going in for treatment
>>>>> because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that i'm
>>>>> alright.
>>>>
>>>> she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?
>>>>
>>>
>>> i once told her i was about to start another round of
>>> partial and she told me that i shouldn't go because i
>>> sounded good. she needs to be in control of all
>>> situations. mostly, she just tells me all the latest
>>> research showing why i should be taking various
>>> supplements and asks every so often to make sure i'm
>>> following that advice.
>>
>> does she frown on medication and therapy and is more into
>> the new age types of treatments?
>
> not at all. she's chief scientific officer for a medical
> research foundation, as well as being a lecturer at a major
> med school. she's just been hearing lots of good new stuff
> about various vitamins and supplements at lectures. then she
> gets on me to take them.

ohhhhh...she probably thinks she knows it all then.

#11 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

lisa in mass. wrote:

>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
>think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.'
>

Heck, that's what most people do, in my experience.

#12 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

lisa in mass. wrote:
> i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
> just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.
> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
> do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
> good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
>
> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>
>
> -lisa
I know I probably shouldn't say this cuz its none of my buisness and I
don't want to upset you. I wish you'd just get mad at her just once
! And tell her to either be supportive or butt out!! okay
I said it, jill

#13 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

On 25 Oct 2006 20:25:54 GMT, "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote:

>justabeing wrote...
>
>>
>> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
>> news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
>>>'i
>>> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
>>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing
>>> this with her. if i tell her what's really going on, she
>>> tells me what i should do, including not going in for
>>> treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that
>>> i'm alright.
>>>
>>> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation.
>>> <sigh>
>>>
>>> -lisa
>>
>> i'm sorry lisa
>> that sucks
>> but try to remember it's just because she's your mom and
>> she loves you that's all
>
>yeah, i know. what i don't like is that i can't tell my
>father, who's fine, because he'll tell my mother and she'll
>call me up to lecture me.
>
>i talked to them after i got home from the hospital and they
>said that i should have joe call them right away next time i'm
>in the hospital so they can get in touch with me. joe said to
>me 'that's the point of not telling them.'
>
>at least they care. i just wish my mother could accept things
>as they are.
>
>-lisa

I like Joe

#14 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

Bacon wrote...

> On 25 Oct 2006 20:25:54 GMT, "lisa in mass."
> <mccats@rcn.com> wrote:
>
>>justabeing wrote...
>>
>>>
>>> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
>>> news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>>>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
>>>>'i
>>>> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
>>>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my
>>>> doing this with her. if i tell her what's really going
>>>> on, she tells me what i should do, including not going
>>>> in for treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just
>>>> say that i'm alright.
>>>>
>>>> now i have to be prepared for more serious
>>>> interrogation. <sigh>
>>>>
>>>> -lisa
>>>
>>> i'm sorry lisa
>>> that sucks
>>> but try to remember it's just because she's your mom and
>>> she loves you that's all
>>
>>yeah, i know. what i don't like is that i can't tell my
>>father, who's fine, because he'll tell my mother and she'll
>>call me up to lecture me.
>>
>>i talked to them after i got home from the hospital and
>>they said that i should have joe call them right away next
>>time i'm in the hospital so they can get in touch with me.
>>joe said to me 'that's the point of not telling them.'
>>
>>at least they care. i just wish my mother could accept
>>things as they are.
>>
>>-lisa
>
> I like Joe

me, too :-)

#15 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns9867D1A61523Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
> Bacon wrote...
>
> > On 25 Oct 2006 20:25:54 GMT, "lisa in mass."
> > <mccats@rcn.com> wrote:
> >
> >>justabeing wrote...
> >>
> >>>
> >>> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
> >>> news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
> >>>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
> >>>>'i
> >>>> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
> >>>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my
> >>>> doing this with her. if i tell her what's really going
> >>>> on, she tells me what i should do, including not going
> >>>> in for treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just
> >>>> say that i'm alright.
> >>>>
> >>>> now i have to be prepared for more serious
> >>>> interrogation. <sigh>
> >>>>
> >>>> -lisa
> >>>
> >>> i'm sorry lisa
> >>> that sucks
> >>> but try to remember it's just because she's your mom and
> >>> she loves you that's all
> >>
> >>yeah, i know. what i don't like is that i can't tell my
> >>father, who's fine, because he'll tell my mother and she'll
> >>call me up to lecture me.
> >>
> >>i talked to them after i got home from the hospital and
> >>they said that i should have joe call them right away next
> >>time i'm in the hospital so they can get in touch with me.
> >>joe said to me 'that's the point of not telling them.'
> >>
> >>at least they care. i just wish my mother could accept
> >>things as they are.
> >>
> >>-lisa
> >
> > I like Joe
>
> me, too :-)

Lisa and Joe sitting in a tree ...

#16 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

Noon Cat Nick wrote...

> lisa in mass. wrote:
>
>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
>>think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.'
>>
>
> Heck, that's what most people do, in my experience.

yep. she wants me to be honest with her. i'd rather not.

#17 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

jill wrote...

>
> lisa in mass. wrote:
>> i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
>> 'i think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing
>> this with her. if i tell her what's really going on, she
>> tells me what i should do, including not going in for
>> treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that
>> i'm alright.
>>
>> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation.
>> <sigh>
>>
>> -lisa
> I know I probably shouldn't say this cuz its none of my
> buisness and I
> don't want to upset you. I wish you'd just get mad at
> her just once ! And tell her to either be supportive or
> butt out!! okay I said it, jill

it would certainly shake her up. people in my family don't do
anger. i never heard my parents so much as disagree in front
of me as a kid. i've never heard them fight. ever. my
brother's friend said that ours was like a family of robots.
maybe i will show some anger next time. it will certainly make
an impression.

-lisa

#18 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
> just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.
> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
> do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
> good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
>
> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>
>
> -lisa

I swear, this made me think of my own situation with my son. Years ago I
went through hell with his ADHD and we over came it (meds, no meds,
inpatient, outpatient, finally med free and no therapy), at least I thought
we did. He's 20 now and talking about it alot, using it as an excuse for
some of his behaviors. Nothing horrible, but through out his life when he
was a teen, I wouldn't allow him to use ADHD as an excuse for ANYTHING! Now
I'm beginning to wonder if I've NOT been one of those understanding,
accepting mom's in denial that there might be a problem. I think I should
listen more and stop throwing my opinion around, know what I mean?

#19 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

I absolutely know what you mean Lisa.
I have people all around me who doesn't believe I'm ill because I "sound so
good" all the time.
Makes it even harder imo.

~Andie

"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> a écrit dans le message de news:
Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4...
>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
> just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.
> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
> do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
> good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
>
> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>
>
> -lisa

#20 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

lisa in mass. <mccats@rcn.com> wrote:
> i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
> just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.
> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
> do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
> good.' so i just say that i'm alright.

> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>

wow, that's a minefield. my relations don't ask many
questions.

just what sort of treatment does she think you don't need?
in- or out- patient? Rx? that's a little scary, somehow.

#21 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

In message <Xns9867A726B64E2mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4>, lisa in mass.
<mccats@rcn.com> writes
>justabeing wrote...
>> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
>> news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..

>>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
>>>'i
>>> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
>>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing
>>> this with her. if i tell her what's really going on, she
>>> tells me what i should do, including not going in for
>>> treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that
>>> i'm alright.
>>>
>>> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation.
>>> <sigh>
>>
>> i'm sorry lisa
>> that sucks
>> but try to remember it's just because she's your mom and
>> she loves you that's all
>
>yeah, i know. what i don't like is that i can't tell my
>father, who's fine, because he'll tell my mother and she'll
>call me up to lecture me.
>
>i talked to them after i got home from the hospital and they
>said that i should have joe call them right away next time i'm
>in the hospital so they can get in touch with me. joe said to
>me 'that's the point of not telling them.'
>
>at least they care. i just wish my mother could accept things
>as they are.

You'll always care about your offspring, and want to know the bad stuff,
and want to help. Your mother's just the same. Well, maybe not quite the
same...

--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?

#22 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

In message <Xns9867A7F4E8268mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4>, lisa in mass.
<mccats@rcn.com> writes
>used2be wrote...
>
>>> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i
>>> should do, including not going in for treatment because i
>>> 'sound so good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
>>
>> she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?
>>
>i once told her i was about to start another round of partial
>and she told me that i shouldn't go because i sounded good. she
>needs to be in control of all situations. mostly, she just tells
>me all the latest research showing why i should be taking
>various supplements and asks every so often to make sure i'm
>following that advice.

Maybe you should tell her about The Face.

--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?

#23 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

my family doctor called me the most cheerful suicidal patient
he'd ever met. i tend to seem happier the worse i feel,
probably from having to hide it when i was young.

-lisa

Andie wrote...

> I absolutely know what you mean Lisa.
> I have people all around me who doesn't believe I'm ill
> because I "sound so good" all the time.
> Makes it even harder imo.
>
> ~Andie
>
>
> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> a écrit dans le message de
> news: Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4...
>>i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
>>'i
>> think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing
>> this with her. if i tell her what's really going on, she
>> tells me what i should do, including not going in for
>> treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that
>> i'm alright.
>>
>> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation.
>> <sigh>
>>
>> -lisa

#24 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

Contrarian wrote...

> lisa in mass. <mccats@rcn.com> wrote:
>> i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
>> 'i think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
>> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing
>> this with her. if i tell her what's really going on, she
>> tells me what i should do, including not going in for
>> treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that
>> i'm alright.
>
>> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation.
>> <sigh>
>
> wow, that's a minefield. my relations don't ask many
> questions.
>
> just what sort of treatment does she think you don't
> need? in- or out- patient? Rx? that's a little scary,
> somehow.

in-patient or partial. she knows i need therapy and meds.

#25 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

Alan Harding wrote...

> In message <Xns9867A7F4E8268mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4>,
> lisa in mass. <mccats@rcn.com> writes
>>used2be wrote...
>>
>>>> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what
>>>> i should do, including not going in for treatment
>>>> because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that i'm
>>>> alright.
>>>
>>> she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?
>>>
>>i once told her i was about to start another round of
>>partial and she told me that i shouldn't go because i
>>sounded good. she needs to be in control of all situations.
>>mostly, she just tells me all the latest research showing
>>why i should be taking various supplements and asks every
>>so often to make sure i'm following that advice.
>
> Maybe you should tell her about The Face.

she's the one who taught me about the face. when i was young,
she kept stressing that noone should be able to tell how i
feel by looking at me. that was for depression and pain. now
she doesn't understand how she doesn't know.

-lisa

#26 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

Jane wrote:
> "lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
> news:Xns9867A4DAACD7Cmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4. ..
> >i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said 'i
> > think you always say that you're ok, even when you're not.' she
> > just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing this with her.
> > if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what i should
> > do, including not going in for treatment because i 'sound so
> > good.' so i just say that i'm alright.
> >
> > now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation. <sigh>
> >
> > -lisa
>
> I swear, this made me think of my own situation with my son. Years ago I
> went through hell with his ADHD and we over came it (meds, no meds,
> inpatient, outpatient, finally med free and no therapy), at least I thought
> we did. He's 20 now and talking about it alot, using it as an excuse for
> some of his behaviors. Nothing horrible, but through out his life when he
> was a teen, I wouldn't allow him to use ADHD as an excuse for ANYTHING! Now
> I'm beginning to wonder if I've NOT been one of those understanding,
> accepting mom's in denial that there might be a problem. I think I should
> listen more and stop throwing my opinion around, know what I mean?

Maybe you were right, Maybe not. The thing is you are willing to
look at it. You want to learn and grow and be better. Its great,
bravo. jill

#27 11-09-2006, 10:32 AM

lisa in mass. wrote:
> jill wrote...
>
> >
> > lisa in mass. wrote:
> >> i talked to her on the phone the other night and she said
> >> 'i think you always say that you're ok, even when you're
> >> not.' she just figured this out, after 8 years of my doing
> >> this with her. if i tell her what's really going on, she
> >> tells me what i should do, including not going in for
> >> treatment because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that
> >> i'm alright.
> >>
> >> now i have to be prepared for more serious interrogation.
> >> <sigh>
> >>
> >> -lisa
> > I know I probably shouldn't say this cuz its none of my
> > buisness and I
> > don't want to upset you. I wish you'd just get mad at
> > her just once ! And tell her to either be supportive or
> > butt out!! okay I said it, jill
>
> it would certainly shake her up. people in my family don't do
> anger. i never heard my parents so much as disagree in front
> of me as a kid. i've never heard them fight. ever. my
> brother's friend said that ours was like a family of robots.
> maybe i will show some anger next time. it will certainly make
> an impression.
>
> -lisa
Dealing with anger in a rational way that leads to more
understanding is a good thing!
Everybody gets mad , some people just don't express it honestly.
jill

#28 11-09-2006, 10:33 AM

In message <Xns98686DAD1DC6Dmccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4>, lisa in mass.
<mccats@rcn.com> writes
>Alan Harding wrote...
>> In message <Xns9867A7F4E8268mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4>,
>> lisa in mass. <mccats@rcn.com> writes
>>>used2be wrote...
>>>
>>>>> if i tell her what's really going on, she tells me what
>>>>> i should do, including not going in for treatment
>>>>> because i 'sound so good.' so i just say that i'm
>>>>> alright.
>>>>
>>>> she tells you NOT to go in for treatment?
>>>>
>>>i once told her i was about to start another round of
>>>partial and she told me that i shouldn't go because i
>>>sounded good. she needs to be in control of all situations.
>>>mostly, she just tells me all the latest research showing
>>>why i should be taking various supplements and asks every
>>>so often to make sure i'm following that advice.
>>
>> Maybe you should tell her about The Face.
>
>she's the one who taught me about the face. when i was young,
>she kept stressing that noone should be able to tell how i
>feel by looking at me. that was for depression and pain. now
>she doesn't understand how she doesn't know.

A bad memory is forgivable in the elderly. I use it all the time.

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