ROOKIE

Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
away.

On 21 Oct 2006 15:24:13 -0700, "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com>
wrote:

>Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
>to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
>I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
>away.


If you think of things to talk about between sessions, make a list.
that worked well for me. sometimes, maybe usually, what good I got
from a session came days or weeks later. It's good that you've
started.


Charles
__

Charles wrote:
> On 21 Oct 2006 15:24:13 -0700, "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> >Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
> >to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
> >I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> >away.
>
>
> If you think of things to talk about between sessions, make a list.
> that worked well for me. sometimes, maybe usually, what good I got
> from a session came days or weeks later. It's good that you've
> started.
>
>
> Charles
> __


I did right a few down but they all were questions I wanted to know
about her.
Thanks Charles. Throughout the week I will try and write down some
things I need to work out. I'd like to give her a chance before I give
up.

Whitewater wrote:
> Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
> to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
> I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> away.

It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to fill
the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
can out-wait them, lol. ;o)

"BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
news:1161471259.846726.209610@i42g2000cwa.googlegr oups.com...
>
> Whitewater wrote:
>> Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
>> to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
>> I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
>> away.
>
> It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to fill
> the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
>

you are too funny bored to tears : )
that made my day!

On 21 Oct 2006 15:54:19 -0700, "BoredToTears"
<beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote:

>
>Whitewater wrote:
>> Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
>> to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
>> I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
>> away.
>
>It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to fill
>the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
>can out-wait them, lol. ;o)

Agreed, watch "Good Will Hunting" for Will's approach, impressive.

BoredToTears wrote:
> Whitewater wrote:
> > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
> > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
> > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> > away.
>
> It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to fill
> the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> can out-wait them, lol. ;o)

I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird. Shit it
would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the clock,
pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time I'll do a
jig.
What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?

Whitewater wrote:
> BoredToTears wrote:
> > Whitewater wrote:
> > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
> > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
> > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> > > away.
> >
> > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to fill
> > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
>
> I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird. Shit it
> would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the clock,
> pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time I'll do a
> jig.
> What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?

No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's *your*
session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll notice
all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like never
asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes" or"
no".

It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit of
fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say what's
hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)

"BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
>
> Whitewater wrote:
> > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now
what
> > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I
feel
> > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems
far
> > > > away.
> > >
> > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to
fill
> > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> >
> > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird. Shit it
> > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the clock,
> > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time I'll do a
> > jig.
> > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
>
> No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's *your*
> session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
> avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll notice
> all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like never
> asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes" or"
> no".
>
> It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit of
> fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say what's
> hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
>


just don't say you know me

% wrote:
> "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> >
> > Whitewater wrote:
> > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now
> what
> > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I
> feel
> > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems
> far
> > > > > away.
> > > >
> > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to
> fill
> > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > >
> > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird. Shit it
> > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the clock,
> > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time I'll do a
> > > jig.
> > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> >
> > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's *your*
> > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
> > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll notice
> > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like never
> > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes" or"
> > no".
> >
> > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit of
> > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say what's
> > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> >
>
>
> just don't say you know me


Hell I don't even know myself. lol
How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to the next?
More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to someone you
don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?

Whitewater wrote:
> % wrote:
> > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> > >
> > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now
> > what
> > > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I
> > feel
> > > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems
> > far
> > > > > > away.
> > > > >
> > > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to
> > fill
> > > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> > > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > > >
> > > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird. Shit it
> > > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the clock,
> > > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time I'll do a
> > > > jig.
> > > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> > >
> > > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's *your*
> > > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
> > > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll notice
> > > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like never
> > > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes" or"
> > > no".
> > >
> > > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit of
> > > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say what's
> > > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> > >
> >
> >
> > just don't say you know me
>
>
> Hell I don't even know myself. lol
> How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to the next?
> More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to someone you
> don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?

You do it slowly. They don't expect you to just blurt out you're
deepest, darkest secrets after one or two sessions. It's not a quick
fix and you have to become comfortable with them, to trust them. And
there is a perfect place to start, tell them you have a problem with
trust and that you have "More bla days lately than aight 1's". You'll
get the hang of it in no time! ;o)

"Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
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>
> % wrote:
> > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> > >
> > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really
now
> > what
> > > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence
I
> > feel
> > > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help
seems
> > far
> > > > > > away.
> > > > >
> > > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to
> > fill
> > > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but
I
> > > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > > >
> > > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird. Shit
it
> > > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the
clock,
> > > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time I'll do
a
> > > > jig.
> > > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> > >
> > > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's *your*
> > > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
> > > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll notice
> > > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like never
> > > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes" or"
> > > no".
> > >
> > > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit of
> > > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say what's
> > > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> > >
> >
> >
> > just don't say you know me
>
>
> Hell I don't even know myself. lol
> How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to the next?
> More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to someone you
> don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?


say what you just said here that's a start
>

% wrote:
> "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> news:1161478068.872931.86030@m73g2000cwd.googlegro ups.com...
> >
> > % wrote:
> > > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > > news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> > > >
> > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really
> now
> > > what
> > > > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence
> I
> > > feel
> > > > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help
> seems
> > > far
> > > > > > > away.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to
> > > fill
> > > > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but
> I
> > > > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > > > >
> > > > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird. Shit
> it
> > > > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the
> clock,
> > > > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time I'll do
> a
> > > > > jig.
> > > > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> > > >
> > > > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's *your*
> > > > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
> > > > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll notice
> > > > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like never
> > > > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes" or"
> > > > no".
> > > >
> > > > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit of
> > > > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say what's
> > > > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> > > >
> > >
> > >
> > > just don't say you know me
> >
> >
> > Hell I don't even know myself. lol
> > How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to the next?
> > More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to someone you
> > don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?
>
>
> say what you just said here that's a start
> >

If only that were that easy sitting in that Frickin Chair. She asks
things like how long have you...you know. I'm not good w/time.

"Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
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>
> % wrote:
> > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> > news:1161478068.872931.86030@m73g2000cwd.googlegro ups.com...
> > >
> > > % wrote:
> > > > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > > > news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> > > > >
> > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never
really
> > now
> > > > what
> > > > > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd
silence
> > I
> > > > feel
> > > > > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help
> > seems
> > > > far
> > > > > > > > away.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the
need to
> > > > fill
> > > > > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time
but
> > I
> > > > > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > > > > >
> > > > > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird.
Shit
> > it
> > > > > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the
> > clock,
> > > > > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time
I'll do
> > a
> > > > > > jig.
> > > > > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> > > > >
> > > > > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's
*your*
> > > > > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
> > > > > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll
notice
> > > > > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like
never
> > > > > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes"
or"
> > > > > no".
> > > > >
> > > > > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit
of
> > > > > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say
what's
> > > > > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> > > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > just don't say you know me
> > >
> > >
> > > Hell I don't even know myself. lol
> > > How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to the
next?
> > > More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to someone you
> > > don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?
> >
> >
> > say what you just said here that's a start
> > >
>
> If only that were that easy sitting in that Frickin Chair. She asks
> things like how long have you...you know. I'm not good w/time.
>


maybe you're not ready yet ,
for talking about that sort of stuff ,
do you know what you expect from going there ,
like what you hope to gain from it

% wrote:
> "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> news:1161480082.556288.270570@f16g2000cwb.googlegr oups.com...
> >
> > % wrote:
> > > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> > > news:1161478068.872931.86030@m73g2000cwd.googlegro ups.com...
> > > >
> > > > % wrote:
> > > > > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > > > > news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never
> really
> > > now
> > > > > what
> > > > > > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd
> silence
> > > I
> > > > > feel
> > > > > > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help
> > > seems
> > > > > far
> > > > > > > > > away.
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the
> need to
> > > > > fill
> > > > > > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time
> but
> > > I
> > > > > > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird.
> Shit
> > > it
> > > > > > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the
> > > clock,
> > > > > > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time
> I'll do
> > > a
> > > > > > > jig.
> > > > > > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> > > > > >
> > > > > > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's
> *your*
> > > > > > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
> > > > > > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll
> notice
> > > > > > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like
> never
> > > > > > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes"
> or"
> > > > > > no".
> > > > > >
> > > > > > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit
> of
> > > > > > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say
> what's
> > > > > > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> > > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > just don't say you know me
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Hell I don't even know myself. lol
> > > > How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to the
> next?
> > > > More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to someone you
> > > > don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?
> > >
> > >
> > > say what you just said here that's a start
> > > >
> >
> > If only that were that easy sitting in that Frickin Chair. She asks
> > things like how long have you...you know. I'm not good w/time.
> >
>
>
> maybe you're not ready yet ,
> for talking about that sort of stuff ,
> do you know what you expect from going there ,
> like what you hope to gain from it


Is there such a thing called normal? Does anyone else feel suspicous of
everyone. It seems like I might be asking too much.

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>
> % wrote:
> > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
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> > >
> > > % wrote:
> > > > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> > > > news:1161478068.872931.86030@m73g2000cwd.googlegro ups.com...
> > > > >
> > > > > % wrote:
> > > > > > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > > > > > news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never
> > really
> > > > now
> > > > > > what
> > > > > > > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd
> > silence
> > > > I
> > > > > > feel
> > > > > > > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this?
Help
> > > > seems
> > > > > > far
> > > > > > > > > > away.
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the
> > need to
> > > > > > fill
> > > > > > > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the
time
> > but
> > > > I
> > > > > > > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt
weird.
> > Shit
> > > > it
> > > > > > > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @
the
> > > > clock,
> > > > > > > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time
> > I'll do
> > > > a
> > > > > > > > jig.
> > > > > > > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's
> > *your*
> > > > > > > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for
other
> > > > > > > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it
you'll
> > notice
> > > > > > > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like
> > never
> > > > > > > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a
"yes"
> > or"
> > > > > > > no".
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee
bit
> > of
> > > > > > > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and
say
> > what's
> > > > > > > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> > > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > just don't say you know me
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > Hell I don't even know myself. lol
> > > > > How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to the
> > next?
> > > > > More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to someone
you
> > > > > don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > say what you just said here that's a start
> > > > >
> > >
> > > If only that were that easy sitting in that Frickin Chair. She asks
> > > things like how long have you...you know. I'm not good w/time.
> > >
> >
> >
> > maybe you're not ready yet ,
> > for talking about that sort of stuff ,
> > do you know what you expect from going there ,
> > like what you hope to gain from it
>
>
> Is there such a thing called normal? Does anyone else feel suspicous of
> everyone. It seems like I might be asking too much.
>


well i think everyone has a sense of what's normal for them ,
and i think everyone experiences different levels of suspicion of others ,
i don't , maybe not everyone does , but i do , its not as bad now ,
as it use to be but i still have moments

% wrote:
> "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
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> >
> > % wrote:
> > > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> > > news:1161480082.556288.270570@f16g2000cwb.googlegr oups.com...
> > > >
> > > > % wrote:
> > > > > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> > > > > news:1161478068.872931.86030@m73g2000cwd.googlegro ups.com...
> > > > > >
> > > > > > % wrote:
> > > > > > > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > > > > > > news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never
> > > really
> > > > > now
> > > > > > > what
> > > > > > > > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd
> > > silence
> > > > > I
> > > > > > > feel
> > > > > > > > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this?
> Help
> > > > > seems
> > > > > > > far
> > > > > > > > > > > away.
> > > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the
> > > need to
> > > > > > > fill
> > > > > > > > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the
> time
> > > but
> > > > > I
> > > > > > > > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt
> weird.
> > > Shit
> > > > > it
> > > > > > > > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @
> the
> > > > > clock,
> > > > > > > > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time
> > > I'll do
> > > > > a
> > > > > > > > > jig.
> > > > > > > > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's
> > > *your*
> > > > > > > > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for
> other
> > > > > > > > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it
> you'll
> > > notice
> > > > > > > > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like
> > > never
> > > > > > > > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a
> "yes"
> > > or"
> > > > > > > > no".
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee
> bit
> > > of
> > > > > > > > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and
> say
> > > what's
> > > > > > > > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > just don't say you know me
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Hell I don't even know myself. lol
> > > > > > How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to the
> > > next?
> > > > > > More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to someone
> you
> > > > > > don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > say what you just said here that's a start
> > > > > >
> > > >
> > > > If only that were that easy sitting in that Frickin Chair. She asks
> > > > things like how long have you...you know. I'm not good w/time.
> > > >
> > >
> > >
> > > maybe you're not ready yet ,
> > > for talking about that sort of stuff ,
> > > do you know what you expect from going there ,
> > > like what you hope to gain from it
> >
> >
> > Is there such a thing called normal? Does anyone else feel suspicous of
> > everyone. It seems like I might be asking too much.
> >
>
>
> well i think everyone has a sense of what's normal for them ,
> and i think everyone experiences different levels of suspicion of others ,
> i don't , maybe not everyone does , but i do , its not as bad now ,
> as it use to be but i still have moments

My ''moments'' were becoming too close together. Causing my husband to
go, against my wishes, and go to my mother. I've only been on my meds
for a few wks. Only time will tell.

"Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
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>
> % wrote:
> > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> > news:1161481570.236102.4080@f16g2000cwb.googlegrou ps.com...
> > >
> > > % wrote:
> > > > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> > > > news:1161480082.556288.270570@f16g2000cwb.googlegr oups.com...
> > > > >
> > > > > % wrote:
> > > > > > "Whitewater" <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote in message
> > > > > > news:1161478068.872931.86030@m73g2000cwd.googlegro ups.com...
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > % wrote:
> > > > > > > > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > > > > > > >
news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > BoredToTears wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > > Whitewater wrote:
> > > > > > > > > > > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I
never
> > > > really
> > > > > > now
> > > > > > > > what
> > > > > > > > > > > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an
odd
> > > > silence
> > > > > > I
> > > > > > > > feel
> > > > > > > > > > > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like
this?
> > Help
> > > > > > seems
> > > > > > > > far
> > > > > > > > > > > > away.
> > > > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel
the
> > > > need to
> > > > > > > > fill
> > > > > > > > > > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all
the
> > time
> > > > but
> > > > > > I
> > > > > > > > > > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> > > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > > I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt
> > weird.
> > > > Shit
> > > > > > it
> > > > > > > > > > would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground,
lookin @
> > the
> > > > > > clock,
> > > > > > > > > > pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next
time
> > > > I'll do
> > > > > > a
> > > > > > > > > > jig.
> > > > > > > > > > What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated,
it's
> > > > *your*
> > > > > > > > > session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for
> > other
> > > > > > > > > avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it
> > you'll
> > > > notice
> > > > > > > > > all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk.
Like
> > > > never
> > > > > > > > > asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a
> > "yes"
> > > > or"
> > > > > > > > > no".
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > > It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a
wee
> > bit
> > > > of
> > > > > > > > > fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it
and
> > say
> > > > what's
> > > > > > > > > hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)
> > > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > just don't say you know me
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Hell I don't even know myself. lol
> > > > > > > How do I describe how I'm feelin? How I feel from one day to
the
> > > > next?
> > > > > > > More bla days lately than aight 1's. How do you open up to
someone
> > you
> > > > > > > don't know and one of my problems I have is trusting ppl?
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > say what you just said here that's a start
> > > > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > If only that were that easy sitting in that Frickin Chair. She
asks
> > > > > things like how long have you...you know. I'm not good w/time.
> > > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > maybe you're not ready yet ,
> > > > for talking about that sort of stuff ,
> > > > do you know what you expect from going there ,
> > > > like what you hope to gain from it
> > >
> > >
> > > Is there such a thing called normal? Does anyone else feel suspicous
of
> > > everyone. It seems like I might be asking too much.
> > >
> >
> >
> > well i think everyone has a sense of what's normal for them ,
> > and i think everyone experiences different levels of suspicion of others
,
> > i don't , maybe not everyone does , but i do , its not as bad now ,
> > as it use to be but i still have moments
>
> My ''moments'' were becoming too close together. Causing my husband to
> go, against my wishes, and go to my mother. I've only been on my meds
> for a few wks. Only time will tell.
>


yep , it all takes time and when you're ready the answers are there

Whitewater <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote:
> Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
> to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
> I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> away.


I can see that it seems far away. What you could or
should do I cannot guess. You already have a pdoc and
Rx, right? Is this person connected with that set-up
(I have to see a CSW to see the pdoc. He's a nice guy
but... it hasn't been very helpful --- bc I think he is
not used to seeing ppl who aren't using/drinking or
recently released from a hospial)

We'll listen if you want to post more.

"BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
news:1161471259.846726.209610@i42g2000cwa.googlegr oups.com...
>
> Whitewater wrote:
>> Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
>> to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
>> I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
>> away.
>
> It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to fill
> the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> can out-wait them, lol. ;o)

What's smart in making a professional looking to help you to lose his/her
time, may I ask?

--
Teilhard Knight
The Extraterrestrial

----------------------------------------------------------
I am not screwed up .......... It's all in my mind

Teilhard Knight wrote:
> "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> news:1161471259.846726.209610@i42g2000cwa.googlegr oups.com...
> >
> > Whitewater wrote:
> >> Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
> >> to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
> >> I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> >> away.
> >
> > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to fill
> > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
>
> What's smart in making a professional looking to help you to lose his/her
> time, may I ask?
>
> --
> Teilhard Knight
> The Extraterrestrial
>
> ----------------------------------------------------------
> I am not screwed up .......... It's all in my mind

I don't recall saying there was anything "smart" about anything.

"BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
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>
> Teilhard Knight wrote:
> > "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> > news:1161471259.846726.209610@i42g2000cwa.googlegr oups.com...
> > >
> > > Whitewater wrote:
> > >> Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now
what
> > >> to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I
feel
> > >> I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> > >> away.
> > >
> > > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to
fill
> > > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
> > > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
> >
> > What's smart in making a professional looking to help you to lose
his/her
> > time, may I ask?
> >
> > --
> > Teilhard Knight
> > The Extraterrestrial
> >
> > ----------------------------------------------------------
> > I am not screwed up .......... It's all in my mind
>
> I don't recall saying there was anything "smart" about anything.
>


lol

Contrarian wrote:
> Whitewater <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote:
> > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
> > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
> > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> > away.
>
>
> I can see that it seems far away. What you could or
> should do I cannot guess. You already have a pdoc and
> Rx, right? Is this person connected with that set-up
> (I have to see a CSW to see the pdoc. He's a nice guy
> but... it hasn't been very helpful --- bc I think he is
> not used to seeing ppl who aren't using/drinking or
> recently released from a hospial)
>
> We'll listen if you want to post more.

I'm not sure what u mean by pdoc, RX & CSW. I see a theropist once a
wk. My reg. M.D. twice in the last month & I have another apt w/her in
a couple wks. I also have an apt Nov. 4th w/a head doc. My MD is giving
me my meds. Paxil, Xanax during the day, and Seroquel @ night. (Without
really knowing what's going on, I think)
Maybe that will change after I see the head doctor 4 the first time on
the 4th. Time was flyin by before I had all these apts. Now it seems to
be standing still.
I have to say, with the exception of the first wk I sought help, I've
felt less angry. Thx everyone for resp. I do feel I can be more open
here.

Whitewater wrote:
> Contrarian wrote:
> > Whitewater <whitewater960@tmail.com> wrote:
> > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now what
> > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I feel
> > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
> > > away.
> >
> >
> > I can see that it seems far away. What you could or
> > should do I cannot guess. You already have a pdoc and
> > Rx, right? Is this person connected with that set-up
> > (I have to see a CSW to see the pdoc. He's a nice guy
> > but... it hasn't been very helpful --- bc I think he is
> > not used to seeing ppl who aren't using/drinking or
> > recently released from a hospial)
> >
> > We'll listen if you want to post more.
>
> I'm not sure what u mean by pdoc, RX & CSW. I see a theropist once a
> wk. My reg. M.D. twice in the last month & I have another apt w/her in
> a couple wks. I also have an apt Nov. 4th w/a head doc. My MD is giving
> me my meds. Paxil, Xanax during the day, and Seroquel @ night. (Without
> really knowing what's going on, I think)
> Maybe that will change after I see the head doctor 4 the first time on
> the 4th. Time was flyin by before I had all these apts. Now it seems to
> be standing still.
> I have to say, with the exception of the first wk I sought help, I've
> felt less angry. Thx everyone for resp. I do feel I can be more open
> here.

Maybe I will call tomorrow and try and move my head Dr. apt. †.

"BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
>
> Whitewater wrote:
>> BoredToTears wrote:
>> > Whitewater wrote:
>> > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now
>> > > what
>> > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I
>> > > feel
>> > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? Help seems far
>> > > away.
>> >
>> > It's a deliberate ploy. It's designed to make you feel the need to fill
>> > the silence and thus "open up". They try it on me all the time but I
>> > can out-wait them, lol. ;o)
>>
>> I did think @ 1 point of just keeping quiet but it felt weird. Shit it
>> would have been an hour of me lookin @ the ground, lookin @ the clock,
>> pickin my nails. Feels like I'm being watch. Maybe next time I'll do a
>> jig.
>> What happen if u don't talk? Is the session over?
>
> No, they just ask more questions. Don't feel intimidated, it's *your*
> session, they ain't gonna kick you out, they just look for other
> avenues to explore your feelings. Once you relax into it you'll notice
> all the little tricks they use to try to get you to talk. Like never
> asking "closed" questions, ones which can be answered by a "yes" or"
> no".
>
> It isn't the most enjoyable experience but you can have a wee bit of
> fun trying to unravel their techniques, lol. Embrace it and say what's
> hurting you. Best of luck! ;o)

I agree with the embrace it approach. It does get easier, or rather, you
will find yourself becoming more comfortable at which point talking becomes
more natural and the whole experience and interaction begins to flow as it
should. I remember when I was new at it and those awkward silences seemed
to sit there like an elephant in the room. It felt terrible. Fortunately,
my shrink has a real neat way of just asking more questions that always got
the ball rolling. Now we speak to one another like old friends, often
laughing in between outbursts of emotion. Once she told me I was the
funniest depressed person she had ever met. I knew then that we'd be okay.
I think you will be too.

--
Rhi

Rhiannon wrote:
> "BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
> news:1161476388.003649.195370@h48g2000cwc.googlegr oups.com...
> >
> > Whitewater wrote:
> >> BoredToTears wrote:
> >> > Whitewater wrote:
> >> > > Just had my 2nd theropy apt. Too much silence. I never really now
> >> > > what
> >> > > to say. She asks ?'s but after I answer there is an odd silence I
> >> > > feel
> >> > > I need to break. Are all sessions going 2 b like this? He