sexual health advice (off topic)

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I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
about70-90 strokes.

ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.

My wife does not want to "stop and start" during actual sex because she
does not like it. I try to talk to her about how being quick bothers me
and frankly it does not feel very good to just have sex for a minute.
She really does not want to talk about it. To be truthful, part of me
thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a
different story.

To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an
erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side
effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have
erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections
and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it.

Anyway my family doctor would call me in a 250 mcg pack to try. (He
thinks I have erections problems, I did not tell him what I was
thinking).

One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and
that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if
this were to happen.

My wife says she does not want me to get any medication and seems
frustrated everytime I talk about it. I told her I reserved the right
and she said "fine"

Anyhow, we do have a good relationship but this PE thing has been
bothering me my whole life and my new years resolution was to make
significant improment in this area this year.

This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate
any help you can provide!

"stryped" <stryped@hotmail.com> wrote in message news:1169489567.444669.15050@11g2000cwr.googlegrou ps.com...
> -no-archive:yes
>
> I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
> have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
> about70-90 strokes.
>
> ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
> prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
> practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.
>
> My wife does not want to "stop and start" during actual sex because she
> does not like it. I try to talk to her about how being quick bothers me
> and frankly it does not feel very good to just have sex for a minute.
> She really does not want to talk about it. To be truthful, part of me
> thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a
> different story.
>
> To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an
> erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side
> effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have
> erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections
> and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it.
>
> Anyway my family doctor would call me in a 250 mcg pack to try. (He
> thinks I have erections problems, I did not tell him what I was
> thinking).
>
> One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and
> that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if
> this were to happen.
>
> My wife says she does not want me to get any medication and seems
> frustrated everytime I talk about it. I told her I reserved the right
> and she said "fine"
>
> Anyhow, we do have a good relationship but this PE thing has been
> bothering me my whole life and my new years resolution was to make
> significant improment in this area this year.
>
> This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate
> any help you can provide!
>


it sounds like no one cares about this but you , so ,
do what you want to do about it

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In article <1169489567.444669.15050@11g2000cwr.googlegroups.c om>,
"stryped" <stryped@hotmail.com> wrote:

> -no-archive:yes
>
> I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
> have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
> about70-90 strokes.
>
> ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
> prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
> practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.
>
> My wife does not want to "stop and start" during actual sex because she
> does not like it. I try to talk to her about how being quick bothers me
> and frankly it does not feel very good to just have sex for a minute.
> She really does not want to talk about it. To be truthful, part of me
> thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a
> different story.

If part of the problem is your 1 minute or 70/90 strokes is insufficient
to bring your partner to orgasm, can you bring her really close in other
ways and then apply the 1 minute etc.? Or is she satisfied with that 1
minute etc. and it's your satisfaction which is inhibited? In that
case, is there activity other than that involving strokes which adds to
your pleasure, in which case that could be a focus and your one minute
be the icing on the cake? As it were.

[snipped the rest]

Disclaimer: Not only am I not male, but it's been over 20 years since I
had first hand knowledge of the topic under discussion, so this is
really REALLY theoretical on my part.

Priscilla

"stryped" <stryped@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1169489567.444669.15050@11g2000cwr.googlegrou ps.com...
> -no-archive:yes
>
> I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
> have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
> about70-90 strokes.
>
> ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
> prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
> practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.
>
> My wife does not want to "stop and start" during actual sex because she
> does not like it. I try to talk to her about how being quick bothers me
> and frankly it does not feel very good to just have sex for a minute.
> She really does not want to talk about it. To be truthful, part of me
> thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a
> different story.
>
The key question is does she have orgasms? Some women get enough pleasure
from sex without achieving orgasms, personally I don't see how. If she
simple don't like sex, giving you 1 minute of pleasure and getting it over
with ASP might be her goal. If you went to a sex therapist alone, the
therapist might have been treating the wrong partner.

Sarah



> To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an
> erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side
> effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have
> erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections
> and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it.
>
> Anyway my family doctor would call me in a 250 mcg pack to try. (He
> thinks I have erections problems, I did not tell him what I was
> thinking).
>
> One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and
> that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if
> this were to happen.
>
> My wife says she does not want me to get any medication and seems
> frustrated everytime I talk about it. I told her I reserved the right
> and she said "fine"
>
> Anyhow, we do have a good relationship but this PE thing has been
> bothering me my whole life and my new years resolution was to make
> significant improment in this area this year.
>
> This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate
> any help you can provide!
>

On 22 Jan 2007 10:12:47 -0800, "stryped" <stryped@hotmail.com> wrote:

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>
>I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
>have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
>about70-90 strokes.

Snip
>
>This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate
>any help you can provide!

Check with the alt.support.impotence newsgroup. Very caring people
with good info. From postings on the newsgroup, MUSE does not seem to
work as well as Trimix and is a little more painful to use.

Charlie

I understand that viagra slows down premature ejaculation. I think your
wife is telling you something. She doesnt care that it is only a
minute. I dont know how your sex life is, but if its slam bam thank you
maam, she is glad that it is over so soon.

Maybe you two need a sex therapist. jmo

Loretta

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In tribute to the United States of America and the State
of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and
terrorism.

stryped wrote:
> -no-archive:yes
>
> I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
> have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
> about70-90 strokes.
>
> ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
> prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
> practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.
>
> My wife does not want to "stop and start" during actual sex because she
> does not like it. I try to talk to her about how being quick bothers me
> and frankly it does not feel very good to just have sex for a minute.
> She really does not want to talk about it. To be truthful, part of me
> thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a
> different story.
>
> To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an
> erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side
> effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have
> erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections
> and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it.
>
> Anyway my family doctor would call me in a 250 mcg pack to try. (He
> thinks I have erections problems, I did not tell him what I was
> thinking).
>
> One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and
> that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if
> this were to happen.
>
> My wife says she does not want me to get any medication and seems
> frustrated everytime I talk about it. I told her I reserved the right
> and she said "fine"
>
> Anyhow, we do have a good relationship but this PE thing has been
> bothering me my whole life and my new years resolution was to make
> significant improment in this area this year.
>
> This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate
> any help you can provide!
>

Get circumcised, that desensitizes the head. When that heals start
masturbating daily. That will increase your endurance. You might also
try masturbating 1 hour before sex. The second orgasm usually takes longer.

stryped <stryped@hotmail.com> wrote:

> I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
> have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
> about70-90 strokes.

> ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
> prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
> practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.

Have you tried just slowing down rather than stopping? 70-90 strokes a
minute sounds like a race to me.

[snip]

> To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an
> erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side
> effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have
> erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections
> and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it.

Some people would call that an erection problem. But you don't mention
how long you leave between orgasms. The kind of thing thing you
describe above is a well known effect of too much sex.

> One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and
> that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if
> this were to happen.

That does sound scarey. Is this something that only happens with
certain people, so that if it doesn't happen to you the first time you
know you're safe, or it a constant risk you run every time you use it
of being unlucky?

--
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IPAB, Informatics, JCMB, King's Buildings, Edinburgh, EH9 3JZ, UK
[http://www.dai.ed.ac.uk/homes/cam/]

stryped wrote:
> -no-archive:yes
>
> I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
> have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
> about70-90 strokes.
>
> ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
> prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
> practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.
>
> My wife does not want to "stop and start" during actual sex because she
> does not like it. I try to talk to her about how being quick bothers me
> and frankly it does not feel very good to just have sex for a minute.
> She really does not want to talk about it. To be truthful, part of me
> thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a
> different story.
>
> To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an
> erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side
> effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have
> erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections
> and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it.
>
> Anyway my family doctor would call me in a 250 mcg pack to try. (He
> thinks I have erections problems, I did not tell him what I was
> thinking).
>
> One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and
> that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if
> this were to happen.
>
> My wife says she does not want me to get any medication and seems
> frustrated everytime I talk about it. I told her I reserved the right
> and she said "fine"
>
> Anyhow, we do have a good relationship but this PE thing has been
> bothering me my whole life and my new years resolution was to make
> significant improment in this area this year.
>
> This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate
> any help you can provide!
>

My spouse used to do item 2 and my angle of erection got better and
better. Info available here:

http://www.howtohavekillersex.com/libiduspenisoil2.pdf

Have you considered learning about Tantric Sex?
http://www.tantra.com/mission/lacroix.html


On 22 Jan 2007 10:12:47 -0800, "stryped" <stryped@hotmail.com> wrote:

>-no-archive:yes
>
>I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
>have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
>about70-90 strokes.
>
>ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
>prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
>practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.
>
>My wife does not want to "stop and start" during actual sex because she
>does not like it. I try to talk to her about how being quick bothers me
>and frankly it does not feel very good to just have sex for a minute.
>She really does not want to talk about it. To be truthful, part of me
>thinks she likes having power over me in this regard but that is a
>different story.
>
>To make a long story short I have been thinking of trying MUSE an
>erection aid that is a urethral supository because one of the side
>effects it says is "erection may continue after orgasm" I do not have
>erection problems although most of the time they are not full erections
>and if I dont receive constant stimulation I somtimes lose it.
>
>Anyway my family doctor would call me in a 250 mcg pack to try. (He
>thinks I have erections problems, I did not tell him what I was
>thinking).
>
>One thing that scares me is it says that rarely priprism can occur and
>that you could possible lose the ability to get an erection at all if
>this were to happen.
>
>My wife says she does not want me to get any medication and seems
>frustrated everytime I talk about it. I told her I reserved the right
>and she said "fine"
>
>Anyhow, we do have a good relationship but this PE thing has been
>bothering me my whole life and my new years resolution was to make
>significant improment in this area this year.
>
>This is a legitimate person with a legitimate problem and I appreciate
>any help you can provide!

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Non-Mortal American casualties 47,657 as of January 10, 2007.
Over 100 Iraqi civilians are killed every day. Most by so-called insurgents.
As of January 23, 2007 it has been 1360 days since Bush while standing in front of the banner
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So where is strypd

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Maybe home, practicing some of the advice. :-)

Cheri



Loretta Eisenberg wrote in message
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So where is strypd

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On Jan 23, 2:26 pm, Rone...@webtv.net (Loretta Eisenberg) wrote:
> So where is strypd

LOL, now is this one of those instances where you wanted to hear how
the advice turned out from the original OP? Me too :-P

On Mon, 22 Jan 2007 13:12:47 -0500, stryped wrote
(in article <1169489567.444669.15050@11g2000cwr.googlegroups.c om>):

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>
> I am a male 35 and married for 13 years. I have posted before that I
> have always had a problem with PE. Sex usually lasts 1 minute and
> about70-90 strokes.
>
> ANyhow, over the years I have tried everything, creams, doctor's
> prescriptions for anti depressents, rings, psychologists visits,
> practicing stopping/starting with myself, all to no avail.

When you say sex usually lasts 1 minute and 70 to 90 strokes, dude that's a
LOT of strokes in 1 minute. It sounds as if you are penetrating her and
immediately banging away wildly at a frantic pace. That can't be any fun for
her, OR you. You say you have tried everything, but frankly, I don't believe
you. In your case, it sounds to me as if some form of surrogate therapy might
be of help, because your own words indicate you never learned how to conduct
the sexual act so that it is mutually satisfying for you and your partner.
Good sex is something most people have to learn how to do.

As for the MUSE, which people have been advising you not to take for months,
in numerous on-topic and off-topic newsgroups, what's the big deal? If you're
that fixated on taking it, go ahead and take it. It might cause priapism,
sure... but life is one big gamble. You go out for a healthy run and you
might get hit by a bus. right? The bigger likelihood is that it will do
absolutely nothing for you except hurt your penis... since most men your age
totally lose interest in sex after they have an orgasm, even if their penis
stays hard for a while. But it's a lot easier to obsess about MUSE being the
miracle cure than it is to take a cold hard look at yourself and deal with
your actual problems.

You and your wife need therapy.

Wanda

Rica and Cheri, I am dying to know the outcome. hahahaha

Loretta

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In tribute to the United States of America and the State
of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and
terrorism.

Me too. LOL

Cheri



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Rica and Cheri, I am dying to know the outcome. hahahaha

Loretta

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In tribute to the United States of America and the State
of Israel, two bastions of strength in a world filled with strife and
terrorism.