Update on husband OT

First, I must say that nobody told him he had cancer. Why he was going
around telling people this is beyond me. But I believed him when he said
it. Assumed the Dr. must have told him this. Grrr...

The surgeon said he removed a massive tumor from his kidney. The biggest
one he had ever seen. Said it had been there for years. Had a hard time
removing it because it was surrounded with tightly packed fat. Said he
won't know the prognosis until Monday. He may or may not need additional
surgery and this operation may or may not take care of the other problems he
has been having.

That's all I know!

"Julie Bove" <juliebove@verizon.net> wrote in message
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> First, I must say that nobody told him he had cancer. Why he was going
> around telling people this is beyond me. But I believed him when he said
> it. Assumed the Dr. must have told him this. Grrr...
>
> The surgeon said he removed a massive tumor from his kidney. The biggest
> one he had ever seen. Said it had been there for years. Had a hard time
> removing it because it was surrounded with tightly packed fat. Said he
> won't know the prognosis until Monday. He may or may not need additional
> surgery and this operation may or may not take care of the other problems
> he has been having.
>
> That's all I know!

Eek. No wonder he was crook. Fingers crossed that the tests show it is
benign.

"Ozgirl" <are_we_there_yet@maccas.com> wrote in message
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>
> "Julie Bove" <juliebove@verizon.net> wrote in message
> news:ONHaj.9136$1X.6651@trndny07...
>> First, I must say that nobody told him he had cancer. Why he was going
>> around telling people this is beyond me. But I believed him when he said
>> it. Assumed the Dr. must have told him this. Grrr...
>>
>> The surgeon said he removed a massive tumor from his kidney. The biggest
>> one he had ever seen. Said it had been there for years. Had a hard time
>> removing it because it was surrounded with tightly packed fat. Said he
>> won't know the prognosis until Monday. He may or may not need additional
>> surgery and this operation may or may not take care of the other problems
>> he has been having.
>>
>> That's all I know!
>
> Eek. No wonder he was crook. Fingers crossed that the tests show it is
> benign.

Thanks.

"Ozgirl" <are_we_there_yet@maccas.com> wrote in message
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>
> "Julie Bove" <juliebove@verizon.net> wrote in message
> news:ONHaj.9136$1X.6651@trndny07...
>> First, I must say that nobody told him he had cancer. Why he was going
>> around telling people this is beyond me. But I believed him when he said
>> it. Assumed the Dr. must have told him this. Grrr...
>>
>> The surgeon said he removed a massive tumor from his kidney. The biggest
>> one he had ever seen. Said it had been there for years. Had a hard time
>> removing it because it was surrounded with tightly packed fat. Said he
>> won't know the prognosis until Monday. He may or may not need additional
>> surgery and this operation may or may not take care of the other problems
>> he has been having.
>>
>> That's all I know!
>
> Eek. No wonder he was crook. Fingers crossed that the tests show it is
> benign.
>

Same thoughts from me!!

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Julie Bove wrote:
> First, I must say that nobody told him he had cancer. Why he was going
> around telling people this is beyond me. But I believed him when he said
> it. Assumed the Dr. must have told him this. Grrr...

Maybe he thougth tumor = cancer?

>
> The surgeon said he removed a massive tumor from his kidney. The biggest
> one he had ever seen. Said it had been there for years. Had a hard time
> removing it because it was surrounded with tightly packed fat. Said he
> won't know the prognosis until Monday. He may or may not need additional
> surgery and this operation may or may not take care of the other problems he
> has been having.
>
> That's all I know!
>
>

Hope things improve from now on.

Susan

"Helen Back" <SiriusC-63@hotmail.co.uk> wrote in message
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>> Eek. No wonder he was crook. Fingers crossed that the tests show it is
>> benign.
>>
>
> Same thoughts from me!!

Thanks!

On Dec 20, 9:02*pm, "Julie Bove" <julieb...@verizon.net> wrote:
> First, I must say that nobody told him he had cancer. *Why he was going
> around telling people this is beyond me. *But I believed him when he said
> it. *Assumed the Dr. must have told him this. *Grrr...
>
> The surgeon said he removed a massive tumor from his kidney. *The biggest
> one he had ever seen. *Said it had been there for years. *Had a hard time
> removing it because it was surrounded with tightly packed fat. *Said he
> won't know the prognosis until Monday. *He may or may not need additional
> surgery and this operation may or may not take care of the other problems he
> has been having.
>
> That's all I know!

Jeez, no wonder he was feeling bad. Keep us posted Julie! My
thoughts are with you.

Michelle C., T2
diet & exercise

www.musicbydalelynch.com

P.S. How is your daughter doing? Is her cold getting better? Did
you manage to avoid it?

On Dec 20, 9:02 pm, "Julie Bove" <julieb...@verizon.net> wrote:
> First, I must say that nobody told him he had cancer. Why he was going
> around telling people this is beyond me. But I believed him when he said
> it. Assumed the Dr. must have told him this. Grrr...
>
> The surgeon said he removed a massive tumor from his kidney. The biggest
> one he had ever seen. Said it had been there for years. Had a hard time
> removing it because it was surrounded with tightly packed fat. Said he
> won't know the prognosis until Monday. He may or may not need additional
> surgery and this operation may or may not take care of the other problems
> he has been having.
>

Maybe he heard "tumor" & assumed it meant "cancer", if it wasn't directly
modified by "benign", and especially if the pathology report wasn't in.

If it is cancer, I hope you get a really good support group (for you) for
information, venting, & general support (just like here, but more focused on
kidney/cancer issues); at least then you can find out what you need to know,
questions to ask, what the issues are, tips for coping, etc. & even if he
won't listen you'll have the background info to deal with things better.

I hope all is going well with the recovery from surgery.
bj

"Susan" <nevermind@nomail.com> wrote in message
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>
> Julie Bove wrote:
>> First, I must say that nobody told him he had cancer. Why he was going
>> around telling people this is beyond me. But I believed him when he said
>> it. Assumed the Dr. must have told him this. Grrr...
>
> Maybe he thougth tumor = cancer?

He said something like... What else could it be? Still... I wish I hadn't
told people it WAS cancer. I should just never repeat anything he says. He
gers so much stuff wrong.
>
>>
>> The surgeon said he removed a massive tumor from his kidney. The biggest
>> one he had ever seen. Said it had been there for years. Had a hard time
>> removing it because it was surrounded with tightly packed fat. Said he
>> won't know the prognosis until Monday. He may or may not need additional
>> surgery and this operation may or may not take care of the other problems
>> he has been having.
>>
>> That's all I know!
>
> Hope things improve from now on.

Thanks!

"Michelle C." <bookbug2005@gmail.com> wrote in message
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Jeez, no wonder he was feeling bad. Keep us posted Julie! My
thoughts are with you.

Thanks!

"bj" <bjones44@bellatlantic.net> wrote in message
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> Maybe he heard "tumor" & assumed it meant "cancer", if it wasn't directly
> modified by "benign", and especially if the pathology report wasn't in.

That's what we're thinking. My mom said when she saw him this morning he
kept going on and on about how they got all the cancer. Right now he isn't
making a lot of sense but he's still on a lot of pain meds.
>
> If it is cancer, I hope you get a really good support group (for you) for
> information, venting, & general support (just like here, but more focused
> on
> kidney/cancer issues); at least then you can find out what you need to
> know,
> questions to ask, what the issues are, tips for coping, etc. & even if he
> won't listen you'll have the background info to deal with things better.

I think there is one at the hospital.
>
> I hope all is going well with the recovery from surgery.

Thanks!

"Julie Bove" <juliebove@verizon.net> wrote in message
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>
> "bj" <bjones44@bellatlantic.net> wrote in message
> news:mnWaj.247$y54.56@trnddc07...
>
>> Maybe he heard "tumor" & assumed it meant "cancer", if it wasn't directly
>> modified by "benign", and especially if the pathology report wasn't in.
>
> That's what we're thinking. My mom said when she saw him this morning he
> kept going on and on about how they got all the cancer. Right now he
> isn't making a lot of sense but he's still on a lot of pain meds.
>>
>> If it is cancer, I hope you get a really good support group (for you) for
>> information, venting, & general support (just like here, but more focused
>> on
>> kidney/cancer issues); at least then you can find out what you need to
>> know,
>> questions to ask, what the issues are, tips for coping, etc. & even if he
>> won't listen you'll have the background info to deal with things better.
>
> I think there is one at the hospital.
>>
>> I hope all is going well with the recovery from surgery.
>
> Thanks!

If the group at the hospital doesn't suit you (for any or no reason) there's
bound to be one online. Check the kidney association, the ACOR lists, and
Yahoo groups. There may also be non-hospital-connected kidney &/or cancer
groups in the area that you can look into; they may have online or
person-to-person phone network/contacts as well (I know my thyca group
does). All you need is to get one way into the "network" & you'll be able to
find other resources.
The hospital social worker should be able to get you a start on information.
Best wishes.
bj

"Julie Bove" <juliebove@verizon.net> wrote:
> "Susan" <nevermind@nomail.com> wrote in message
> > Julie Bove wrote:
> >> [ . . . ]
> He said something like... What else could it be? Still... I wish I
> hadn't told people it WAS cancer. I should just never repeat anything he
> says. He gets so much stuff wrong.

You were led to believe it was (and still might turn out to be) cancer. You
shared your concerns with us. I have no problem with that.

Take care.

--
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"bj" <bjones44@bellatlantic.net> wrote in message
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> If the group at the hospital doesn't suit you (for any or no reason)
> there's
> bound to be one online. Check the kidney association, the ACOR lists, and
> Yahoo groups. There may also be non-hospital-connected kidney &/or cancer
> groups in the area that you can look into; they may have online or
> person-to-person phone network/contacts as well (I know my thyca group
> does). All you need is to get one way into the "network" & you'll be able
> to
> find other resources.
> The hospital social worker should be able to get you a start on
> information.
> Best wishes.

Thanks!

"Nick Cramer" <n_cramerSPAM@pacbell.net> wrote in message
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> "Julie Bove" <juliebove@verizon.net> wrote:
>> "Susan" <nevermind@nomail.com> wrote in message
>> > Julie Bove wrote:
>> >> [ . . . ]
>> He said something like... What else could it be? Still... I wish I
>> hadn't told people it WAS cancer. I should just never repeat anything he
>> says. He gets so much stuff wrong.
>
> You were led to believe it was (and still might turn out to be) cancer.
> You
> shared your concerns with us. I have no problem with that.
>
> Take care.

Well, apparently he still thinks it was cancer. He was going on and on to
my mom about how "They got all the cancer...". We don't know why he thinks
that.