Put 3 kgs after marriage.

Hi Friends,

I am a 30 year old, I got married this feb. I put on 3 kgs after that.
But I have infact reduced my diet.

What normally happens after marriage. What I need to be careful about?

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<seo_ganesh@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> Hi Friends,
>
> I am a 30 year old, I got married this feb. I put on 3 kgs after that.
> But I have infact reduced my diet.

You have either increased the amount of food that you eat or decreased the
amount of exercise you get. I hope it is the former -- congrats on your new
marriage.

(Or maybe you're pregnant!)

On Jun 19, 3:34 pm, "em" <i...@dun.no> wrote:
> <seo_gan...@yahoo.com> wrote in message
>
> news:1182247732.252427.192470@e9g2000prf.googlegro ups.com...
>
> > Hi Friends,
>
> > I am a 30 year old, I got married this feb. I put on 3 kgs after that.
> > But I have infact reduced my diet.
>
> You have either increased the amount of food that you eat or decreased the
> amount of exercise you get. I hope it is the former -- congrats on your new
> marriage.
>
> (Or maybe you're pregnant!)

Yes, I am not exercising. I am a man! But, I have certainly reduced my
diet.

What's generally advised? Am I going in the right direction reducing
my diet?

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<seo_ganesh@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> On Jun 19, 3:34 pm, "em" <i...@dun.no> wrote:
>> <seo_gan...@yahoo.com> wrote in message
>>
>> news:1182247732.252427.192470@e9g2000prf.googlegro ups.com...
>>
>> > Hi Friends,
>>
>> > I am a 30 year old, I got married this feb. I put on 3 kgs after that.
>> > But I have infact reduced my diet.
>>
>> You have either increased the amount of food that you eat or decreased
>> the
>> amount of exercise you get. I hope it is the former -- congrats on your
>> new
>> marriage.
>>
>> (Or maybe you're pregnant!)
>
> Yes, I am not exercising. I am a man! But, I have certainly reduced my
> diet.
>
> What's generally advised? Am I going in the right direction reducing
> my diet?

No. If you were going in the right direction, would you be losing weight? I
would suggest that you start taking a walk every night, and watching what
you eat a little better. Cutting one desert out of your daily eating --
truly cutting it out and not replacing it with other food somewhere else --
can go a long way.

You say that you are eating less, but I doubt that is true. The additional
weight comes from somewhere. If you keep gaining weight, then you will have
to start counting every calorie you eat.

Also, I doubt that you are pregnant.

On Jun 19, 10:03 pm, "em" <i...@dun.no> wrote:

> Also, I doubt that you are pregnant.

What makes you think so. My aabs are perfect.

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On Jun 20, 8:07 am, seo_gan...@yahoo.com wrote:
> On Jun 19, 10:03 pm, "em" <i...@dun.no> wrote:
>
> > Also, I doubt that you are pregnant.
>
> What makes you think so. My aabs are perfect.
>

If your abs are perfect then what are you complaining about and why
are you here?

You ask what changes with marriage that caused you to gain 3kg. Here
are a few ideas.
1. you are comfortable with a steady relationship therefore you are
letting your guard down and allowing yourself to consume more food and
have less exercise.
2. You aren't concerned about keeping up a fit appearance to attract
women because you have one.
3. you are married - therefore you don't get sex as often as you did
when you were courting your wife. you are getting less exercise
4. your new wife is a great cook and she is feeding you well.
5. your new wife is a horrible cook forcing you to sneak junk food
between meals when she isn't looking
6. your new wife is secretly trying to fatten you up so that other
women won't be attracted to you
7. ffid

Bottom line - weight gain is due to consumption of food being greater
than calories burned. You either need to eat less, or exercise more
(better yet, a combination of both) in order to lose weight.

--LFM
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On Jun 20, 10:17 pm, LFM <cruzen...@gmail.com> wrote:
> > What makes you think so. My aabs are perfect.
>
> If your abs are perfect then what are you complaining about and why
> are you here?

Well, em was telling me that i could be pregnant, I first said I am a
man. But, then to she insisted to check if I was pregnant. :-))))

> You ask what changes with marriage that caused you to gain 3kg. Here
> are a few ideas.
> 1. you are comfortable with a steady relationship therefore you are
> letting your guard down and allowing yourself to consume more food and
> have less exercise.

Hmm, yes certainly I am contented and am not that careful I was
before. This is a point I should be thinking about.

> 2. You aren't concerned about keeping up a fit appearance to attract
> women because you have one.

Exactly.

> 3. you are married - therefore you don't get sex as often as you did
> when you were courting your wife. you are getting less exercise

Well, it is the otherway. In India we do not have sex before marriage.
I never had it.

> 4. your new wife is a great cook and she is feeding you well.

Yes she is...

> 5. your new wife is a horrible cook forcing you to sneak junk food
> between meals when she isn't looking

No, she is very careful.

> 6. your new wife is secretly trying to fatten you up so that other
> women won't be attracted to you

This I never thought about.....!!!! i need to consider that....

> 7. ffid
>

I did not understand this one for sure...

> Bottom line - weight gain is due to consumption of food being greater
> than calories burned. You either need to eat less, or exercise more
> (better yet, a combination of both) in order to lose weight.
>

I have reduced my food, and I have surely become a lot lazier. I need
to soon.... consider myself doing exercises regularly.

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seo_ganesh@yahoo.com wrote:
> On Jun 20, 10:17 pm, LFM <cruzen...@gmail.com> wrote:
>>> What makes you think so. My aabs are perfect.
>>
>> If your abs are perfect then what are you complaining about and why
>> are you here?
>
> Well, em was telling me that i could be pregnant, I first said I am a
> man. But, then to she insisted to check if I was pregnant. :-))))
<snip>

I think you misunderstood. He (em) said he *doubted* you were pregnant in
his reply. He was joking around because, since you're a guy, of course you
aren't pregnant.

OK, I take it from your responses that you are.
A. India, therefore
B. English is not your first language, which
C. May lead to some miscommunication due to the minor language barrier.
With this in mind you can disregard my ffid comment.

I think your english is very good, and you appear to be a very intelligent
individual.

Bottom line for weight gain comes down to basic physics. Your body burns
only so many calories per day. The more you exercise, the more calories
your body burns. But if you take in (eat, consume) more calories than your
body expends in a day, then you will gain weight. This has obviously been
happening.

To remedy the situation you need to eat less than your body needs. Create
a calorie deficit and you will lose weight. If you have already reduced
your food, then you need to reduce it more. And exercise will also
benefit. Exercise will not only help you lose weight, but it has other
health benefits too. Enjoy.

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<seo_ganesh@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> On Jun 20, 10:17 pm, LFM <cruzen...@gmail.com> wrote:
>> > What makes you think so. My aabs are perfect.
>>
>> If your abs are perfect then what are you complaining about and why
>> are you here?
>
> Well, em was telling me that i could be pregnant, I first said I am a
> man. But, then to she insisted to check if I was pregnant. :-))))
>
>> You ask what changes with marriage that caused you to gain 3kg. Here
>> are a few ideas.
>> 1. you are comfortable with a steady relationship therefore you are
>> letting your guard down and allowing yourself to consume more food and
>> have less exercise.
>
> Hmm, yes certainly I am contented and am not that careful I was
> before. This is a point I should be thinking about.
>
>> 2. You aren't concerned about keeping up a fit appearance to attract
>> women because you have one.
>
> Exactly.
>
>> 3. you are married - therefore you don't get sex as often as you did
>> when you were courting your wife. you are getting less exercise
>
> Well, it is the otherway. In India we do not have sex before marriage.
> I never had it.
>
>> 4. your new wife is a great cook and she is feeding you well.
>
> Yes she is...
>
>> 5. your new wife is a horrible cook forcing you to sneak junk food
>> between meals when she isn't looking
>
> No, she is very careful.
>
>> 6. your new wife is secretly trying to fatten you up so that other
>> women won't be attracted to you
>
> This I never thought about.....!!!! i need to consider that....
>
>> 7. ffid
>>
>
> I did not understand this one for sure...
>
>> Bottom line - weight gain is due to consumption of food being greater
>> than calories burned. You either need to eat less, or exercise more
>> (better yet, a combination of both) in order to lose weight.
>>
>
> I have reduced my food, and I have surely become a lot lazier. I need
> to soon.... consider myself doing exercises regularly.
>
> LD
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> (Your True Family Discussions)
> Special Pages for Consultants
> Best Family counsellings done here....
>

On Jun 22, 5:51 am, "LFM" <nothank...@nowhere.com> wrote:
> OK, I take it from your responses that you are.
> A. India, therefore

You are right!!!!

> B. English is not your first language, which

Yes it is not.

> C. May lead to some miscommunication due to the minor language barrier.
> With this in mind you can disregard my ffid comment.

Well it is ok if u can let me know about that ... i m curious..

>
> I think your english is very good, and you appear to be a very intelligent
> individual.
>
Thanks you so much...

> Bottom line for weight gain comes down to basic physics. Your body burns
> only so many calories per day. The more you exercise, the more calories
> your body burns. But if you take in (eat, consume) more calories than your
> body expends in a day, then you will gain weight. This has obviously been
> happening.
>
> To remedy the situation you need to eat less than your body needs. Create
> a calorie deficit and you will lose weight. If you have already reduced
> your food, then you need to reduce it more. And exercise will also
> benefit. Exercise will not only help you lose weight, but it has other
> health benefits too. Enjoy.

I will be surely keeping a note of the food I am consuming every day.
I will also keep a watch at my weight. I will I should consider buying
a weight scale to keep at home. That should do a lot good.

Are there any other suggestions I should consider.

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<seo_ganesh@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> On Jun 22, 5:51 am, "LFM" <nothank...@nowhere.com> wrote:

>> C. May lead to some miscommunication due to the minor language barrier.
>> With this in mind you can disregard my ffid comment.
>
> Well it is ok if u can let me know about that ... i m curious..
>

FFID ... <pardon my potty mouth english here..> Fat F*ck in denial. It
is a term used to define a person who is in denial over their weight gain
and think that their weight gain is caused by some magical, mythical source.
They think their weight gain is totally unlike anyone else out there. Most
times these people can be stubborn and rude about it here. Generally they
are stupid idiots who are not willing to open their eyes to their lifestyle
and see what exactly is causing the weight gain. I thought you may be one
of those type of people from a couple of your comments at first, but then I
realized that your only problem is a slight miscommunication due to the
language barrier.

I think you get what has been happening to you. You are becoming
complaicent now that you are married and that has been allowing you to eat
more, exercise less and gain a little weight.

>
> I will be surely keeping a note of the food I am consuming every day.
> I will also keep a watch at my weight. I will I should consider buying
> a weight scale to keep at home. That should do a lot good.
>
> Are there any other suggestions I should consider.
>

Do you have any way for formal exercise? (running, working out, playing
ball with the friends... something like that). Can you go for a long walk
in the evening with your wife? Something to bring some form of physical
activity that gets your heart rate pounding for an hour at a time, at least
4 days a week.

You probably don't have to buy a scale. Your clothing will certainly be an
indicator to weight gain or loss (if they are too tight, you are eating too
much, if they are loss, you are doing ok).

If you don't see an improvement in weight loss, then eat even less. You
will have to find that point where your food intake and exercise level
matches the calories your body needs in order to maintain your weight.


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On Jun 22, 3:53 pm, "LFM" <nothank...@nowhere.com> wrote:
> Do you have any way for formal exercise? (running, working out, playing
> ball with the friends... something like that). Can you go for a long walk
> in the evening with your wife? Something to bring some form of physical
> activity that gets your heart rate pounding for an hour at a time, at least
> 4 days a week.
>

I am in this money making stuff for the last 3 years and got married
to a nice women as a result of that, but that has made me bulky. I
used to play table tennis with out fail and also participated in lot
of tournaments. But, not things are different. The routine is this
way..

1. Wake up
2. Take Bath
3. Pray to God
4. Eat Breakfast (Black Tea/White tea with 4-5 biscuts)
5. Go to office
6. Start the computer and work
7. Eat cooked spicy rice
8. Start to home
9. Eat a little sized burger
10. Reach Home
11. Take a short rest
12. Eat Dinner (Rice with some Dal, Curd) (some times it's heavy 3
times a week)
13. Go to sleep

This is all my routine.. I don't know why should I be putting weight
at all? If I quit even this I should faint.

Remember, my wife is eating the same stuff I am eating and she has
reduced by 1 kg. She was around 45 before marriage and now she's
43-44.. I am some times worried for her, I ask her to take more milk.
But, I've added weight with almost the same diet.

what's happening?

<seo_ganesh@yahoo.com> wrote

> 4. Eat Breakfast (Black Tea/White tea with 4-5 biscuts)
> 7. Eat cooked spicy rice
> 9. Eat a little sized burger
> 12. Eat Dinner (Rice with some Dal, Curd) (some times it's heavy 3
> times a week)
>
> This is all my routine.. I don't know why should I be putting weight
> at all? If I quit even this I should faint.

If a person's diet increases by 250 calories per day, which isn't much food
at all, they would gain 1kg per month. That's something like an extra few
tablespoons of rice, three times a day.

If you want to lose weight, I suggest this:

Measure the amount of rice you eat using a cup or a scale. After you get a
good idea of how much you eat, slightly reduce the portion size. If your
weight starts to go down, you know you're doing well. If it stays the same
or starts to go up, then further reduce the portion size.

You should probably measure all of your food each day.

You are doing the right thing. If you keep on this upswing, ten years from
now you will be very sorry.

I notice that there is no exercise in your schedule. If you want a lifetime
of good health and happiness with your wife -- which I wish for you -- then
you'd better start to exercise.

If I may give my opinion, don't worry about your wife's weight unless you
talk to a doctor first. It is better that she is a little underweight than a
little overweight. She may gain some after you two have kids.

All the Best!

On Jun 23, 11:49 am, "em" <i...@dun.no> wrote:
> you'd better start to exercise.
>
You are right about this, there's no exercise in my routine.. But,
there's no time.. I am gone too far into this cycle.. I am not at all
feeling the energy to exercise. at times I make my mind and exercise
but then i don't make that.. always.

I just take 200 - 300 spot jumps, do you think that's sufficient...
there's no enough room for the skipping rope to have a free flow...

spot jumps just like I used to do skipping!!!

does that help, is this itself enough?

> If I may give my opinion, don't worry about your wife's weight unless you
> talk to a doctor first. It is better that she is a little underweight than a
> little overweight. She may gain some after you two have kids.
>
> All the Best!

Thank God, I was wondering if she is facing some problem... She is
absolutely healthy.. ya may be she works far more than me.. in her
regular routine..

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<seo_ganesh@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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> On Jun 23, 11:49 am, "em" <i...@dun.no> wrote:
>> you'd better start to exercise.
>>
> You are right about this, there's no exercise in my routine.. But,
> there's no time..

That is an excuse. If you wanted to exercise you would make time to do so.

In your schedule, you sleep, eat and work. No time for your wife? No time
for your personal interests? I don't believe you. I've seen your website and
I know you're a newlywed.

Besides, if you gave up 30 minutes of sleep and did 30 minutes of exercise,
every day, you would feel more rested and more energetic.

> I just take 200 - 300 spot jumps, do you think that's sufficient...
> there's no enough room for the skipping rope to have a free flow...

I have no idea what would or would not be an appropriate amount of exercise
for you. I do know, however, that you eat more than you exercise or you
wouldn't be gaining weight.

> Thank God

Yes, every day!

On Jun 24, 9:43 am, "em" <i...@dun.no> wrote:
> <seo_gan...@yahoo.com> wrote in message
>
> news:1182584694.072542.182170@g37g2000prf.googlegr oups.com...
>
> > On Jun 23, 11:49 am, "em" <i...@dun.no> wrote:
> >> you'd better start to exercise.
>
> > You are right about this, there's no exercise in my routine.. But,
> > there's no time..
>
> That is an excuse. If you wanted to exercise you would make time to do so.

) that's pretty clear and straight, you are right about that... I
can exercise regularly if I want to .. but that's all about putting
that extra... in you and do a little of exercise..

>
> In your schedule, you sleep, eat and work. No time for your wife? No time
> for your personal interests? I don't believe you. I've seen your website and
> I know you're a newlywed.
>

Yes.. I do take time for my wife and personal interests.. I do go out
during the weekends..

> Besides, if you gave up 30 minutes of sleep and did 30 minutes of exercise,
> every day, you would feel more rested and more energetic.
>
> > I just take 200 - 300 spot jumps, do you think that's sufficient...
> > there's no enough room for the skipping rope to have a free flow...
>
> I have no idea what would or would not be an appropriate amount of exercise
> for you. I do know, however, that you eat more than you exercise or you
> wouldn't be gaining weight.
>
> > Thank God
>
> Yes, every day!

Yes that's a must .. I will keep you updated about myself.. I think I
should start exercising very soon.... or I too know I will end up in a
disaster...


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