The system works.

My friend has a roommate that is...let's say extremely depressed and
leave it at that. So, a couple of nights ago she comes home from work
to find her front yard full of police cars. Her roommate is standing
in the door of the house with cops staring at him. It turns out that
he drank a few beers and got really down and started firing off emails
to everyone he knows. The gist of the letter was that he couldn't take
it anymore, gonna blow his brains out (they don't have a gun), goodbye
to everyone. He sent the original letter to his mother telling her
that she had 3 other kids to be proud of and he was a failure....well,
you get the idea.

He sent these notes late in the evening and only one brother opened
the letter that night. He called the local police to do a welfare call
on the house and see if the roommate was alright. He was. Well,
needless to say they took him away to the hospital. He is now in a
local mental facility for observation. I think he will be alright.

In thinking about all this its amazing how well it worked. Of course
if he were going to kill himself he would have done it and not written
everyone he knew telling them he was. It was a cry for help I think.
Funny thing is he doesn't seem depressed. Now, I don't live with him
and I am not around him a whole lot, but he just doesn't seem that
depressed. And that's amazing too. How many people are walking around
here on the edge of their plates and we don't even know it. So, if you
say a harsh word, ridicule or in some way hurt these people, they
might slide right off the edge. Hmm.


Dana
Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons,
for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.

Dana© <AneeBear@ownmail.com> wrote in
news:9o4793dq6uvo37mrrs7t5voj4qbbpetd6a@4ax.com:

> Funny thing is he doesn't seem depressed. Now, I don't live with him
> and I am not around him a whole lot, but he just doesn't seem that
> depressed. And that's amazing too. How many people are walking around
> here on the edge of their plates and we don't even know it. So, if you
> say a harsh word, ridicule or in some way hurt these people, they
> might slide right off the edge. Hmm.
>

When I was depressed I didn't show it around other people. It went on
for so long that they just figured I was naturally a negative person. At
home I'd cry, or eat, or both, but at work? No problem. I never
actually planned on harming myself, I mostly just sat around and waited
to die, so anyone saying a harsh word just made me wait harder, if you
know what I mean. And eat more.

But things change, and I hope they change for your friend's roommate.
Good for him for sending out that SOS.

Chak

--
How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young,
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant
of the weak and strong, because someday in your life you will have been
all of these.
--George Washington Carver

"Chakolate" <chakolateDeathToSpammers@gmail.com> wrote in message
> When I was depressed I didn't show it around other people. It went on
> for so long that they just figured I was naturally a negative person. At
> home I'd cry, or eat, or both, but at work? No problem. I never
> actually planned on harming myself, I mostly just sat around and waited
> to die,

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Awww Chak}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

so anyone saying a harsh word just made me wait harder, if you
> know what I mean. And eat more.
>
> But things change, and I hope they change for your friend's roommate.
> Good for him for sending out that SOS.
>
> Chak

Yes, things do change but it's hell while in that hole.

Roseanne

"foggydoggy" <foggydoggy@cogeco.ca> wrote in
news:IBUki.22518$KV1.5525@read2.cgocable.net:

> {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Awww Chak}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Cyber hugs really shouldn't be effective you know. They really
shouldn't, there's no logical reason for them to work.

But they do. :-) {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Roseanne}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

> Yes, things do change but it's hell while in that hole.

Yep. I was there for about 20 years, and the only thing I can do about
it now is decide to live for an extra 20 to make up for the ones I lost.
:-)

Chak

--
How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young,
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant
of the weak and strong, because someday in your life you will have been
all of these.
--George Washington Carver

Dana© wrote the following on 7/10/2007 10:23 AM:
> How many people are walking around here on the edge of their plates
> and we don't even know it. So, if you say a harsh word, ridicule or in
> some way hurt these people, they might slide right off the edge. Hmm.
>

That can be pretty common with neurological disabilities. Often the
person has to work so hard to maintain and function at a minimal level
that one more seemingly tiny thing pushes them right over the edge and
they meltdown.

Someone once compared this to a waiter carrying a tray full of water
glasses. He is managing, balancing the tray and working his way across
the room, when someone puts one more glass on the tray and the entire
tray goes crashing to the ground. That one glass doesn't seem
significant, but it was what tipped the waiter from functioning to not
functioning.

One thing people with autism often here is that if they can do "A" they
must be able to do "B". Well, sometimes "A" pushes their ability to cope
to their limit, and "B" is simply not possible. Or "B" was possible
yesterday, but there are different stresses today and "B" is no longer
possible.

Karen R.

When I had a bout of depression, the only person that knew about it was my
husband and he tried everything to help me...I had it in my mind that if I
killed myself my husband could find a woman that would be a much better
mother and wife than I was...finally my husband sat me down and asked if I
thought I needed to go to a Dr...I finally went to my Family Practice
Dr...She sent me straight to a psychiatrist..thank God for that...After a
year of medication and weekly visits he helped me understand me..
Sounds like this guy is getting the help he was asking for.
Jacquie


"Dana©" <AneeBear@ownmail.com> wrote in message
news:9o4793dq6uvo37mrrs7t5voj4qbbpetd6a@4ax.com...
> My friend has a roommate that is...let's say extremely depressed and
> leave it at that. So, a couple of nights ago she comes home from work
> to find her front yard full of police cars. Her roommate is standing
> in the door of the house with cops staring at him. It turns out that
> he drank a few beers and got really down and started firing off emails
> to everyone he knows. The gist of the letter was that he couldn't take
> it anymore, gonna blow his brains out (they don't have a gun), goodbye
> to everyone. He sent the original letter to his mother telling her
> that she had 3 other kids to be proud of and he was a failure....well,
> you get the idea.
>
> He sent these notes late in the evening and only one brother opened
> the letter that night. He called the local police to do a welfare call
> on the house and see if the roommate was alright. He was. Well,
> needless to say they took him away to the hospital. He is now in a
> local mental facility for observation. I think he will be alright.
>
> In thinking about all this its amazing how well it worked. Of course
> if he were going to kill himself he would have done it and not written
> everyone he knew telling them he was. It was a cry for help I think.
> Funny thing is he doesn't seem depressed. Now, I don't live with him
> and I am not around him a whole lot, but he just doesn't seem that
> depressed. And that's amazing too. How many people are walking around
> here on the edge of their plates and we don't even know it. So, if you
> say a harsh word, ridicule or in some way hurt these people, they
> might slide right off the edge. Hmm.
>
>
> Dana
> Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons,
> for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.