Slipped Briefly

I had a small slip and smoked a few. I am truly sorry. I cried when I had to
reset my meter. I did flush the rest of the pack and have started anew.
Anyone who is sick to death of my contstant fuck ups,I understand. Just know
i am trying. I am really trying.
Becky
3 hours, 53 minutes and 55 seconds. 8 cigarettes not smoked, saving $0.69.
Life saved: 40 minutes.

Becky you are going to get this - you are not the first person to run
into this type of thinking. I sincerely hope that you will spend a bit
more time researching what this addiction does to you.

I also wish you would come here first and post an SOS. If you could get
past breaking the quit and then reporting and turn it around to
reporting that you think you are going to smoke - perhaps there would be
opportunity for AS3 to help you in advance to adjust your mindset to a
more comfortable level of acceptance.

Do I add all this to my Christmas list?

hugs,
robbster


Becky wrote:
> I had a small slip and smoked a few. I am truly sorry. I cried when I had to
> reset my meter. I did flush the rest of the pack and have started anew.
> Anyone who is sick to death of my contstant fuck ups,I understand. Just know
> i am trying. I am really trying.
> Becky
> 3 hours, 53 minutes and 55 seconds. 8 cigarettes not smoked, saving $0.69.
> Life saved: 40 minutes.
>
>
>

On Mon, 11 Feb 2008 20:04:02 -0500, "Becky"
<sobern2003@nospam.comcast.net> wrote:

>I had a small slip and smoked a few. I am truly sorry. I cried when I had to
>reset my meter. I did flush the rest of the pack and have started anew.
>Anyone who is sick to death of my contstant fuck ups,I understand. Just know
>i am trying. I am really trying.
> Becky
>3 hours, 53 minutes and 55 seconds. 8 cigarettes not smoked, saving $0.69.
>Life saved: 40 minutes.

<buttoning lips> <zipping lips> <super gluing lips> <holding head
under water> <putting pillow over face> These are the things I'm
doing to myself to keep myself quiet. These are the things you
*should* have done instead of smoking. <rolling eyes> Ok - that last
one just slipped out.
Sue

>I had a small slip and smoked a few.

Just what is it about the earliest part of a quit that you enjoy so
much?

As long as you keep sabotaging you quit your will never be successful.
WTF is it so freakin' easy for you to bust a quit, time after time? Do
you have "friends" that give you a stink stick when you beg for one?
Do you keep "just a few" in your purse or coat pocket? Where the hell
did you get "a few" to smoke? Did you go out of your way to stop at
the store?

You will continue to fail until you realize you MUST make changes.
Find a sub for your bowling team for a few weeks, or months, or
whatever. Cut yourself off from friends that continue to smoke. If
you can switch shifts at work. Find a new job.

Get the nicotine OUT of your system. Pick one: patches or lozenges,
or better yet, neither. They apparently aren't working for you.

It takes only a few days for nicotine to leave your system. After
than it's the habit you need to break.

Stop whining about busting quit after quit after quit. I don't
believe you're making a serious attempt at quitting. You find it much
to easy to "slip and smoke a few." Stop giving quitting lip service
and just fucking do it!

Yes, I'm pissed at you. Very pissed. You continue to fail to realize
you DO have what it takes to quit. You really do. Take a good long
look at yourself in the mirror and know that you ARE stronger than a
little tube of white paper filled with tobacco. You ARE. Just stop
it.

{{{{{Becky}}}}}

BessieBee (climbing off her high horse.)

On Feb 11, 8:43*pm, BessieBee <Bessie...@Idontsmokeanymore.com> wrote:
> >I had a small slip and smoked a few.
>
> Just what is it about the earliest part of a quit that you enjoy so
> much?
>
> As long as you keep sabotaging you quit your will never be successful.
> WTF is it so freakin' easy for you to bust a quit, time after time? Do
> you have "friends" that give you a stink stick when you beg for one?
> Do you keep "just a few" in your purse or coat pocket? *Where the hell
> did you get "a few" to smoke? *Did you go out of your way to stop at
> the store?
>
> You will continue to fail until you realize you MUST make changes.
> Find a sub for your bowling team for a few weeks, or months, or
> whatever. *Cut yourself off from friends that continue to smoke. *If
> you can switch shifts at work. *Find a new job.
>
> Get the nicotine OUT of your system. *Pick one: patches or lozenges,
> or better yet, neither. *They apparently aren't working for you.
>
> It takes only a few days for nicotine to leave your system. *After
> than it's the habit you need to break.
>
> Stop whining about busting quit after quit after quit. *I don't
> believe you're making a serious attempt at quitting. *You find it much
> to easy to "slip and smoke a few." *Stop giving quitting lip service
> and just fucking do it!
>
> Yes, I'm pissed at you. *Very pissed. *You continue to fail to realize
> you DO have what it takes to quit. *You really do. *Take a good long
> look at yourself in the mirror and know that you ARE stronger than a
> little tube of white paper filled with tobacco. *You ARE. *Just stop
> it.
>
> {{{{{Becky}}}}}
>
> BessieBee (climbing off her high horse.) *

BB - YES! - You "go" girl - that's what I wanted to say, but you said
it in a "nicer" manner than I wanted to. Becky, you have to stop
sabotaging yourself.
Pam

You girls are brave - I would get ripped a new butthole by people
popping out of the woodwork if I said anything that resembled anything
like this.

I'm staying on the safe side of Usenet, <nodding head up and down>
BessieBee wrote:
>> I had a small slip and smoked a few.
>>
>
> Just what is it about the earliest part of a quit that you enjoy so
> much?
>
> As long as you keep sabotaging you quit your will never be successful.
> WTF is it so freakin' easy for you to bust a quit, time after time? Do
> you have "friends" that give you a stink stick when you beg for one?
> Do you keep "just a few" in your purse or coat pocket? Where the hell
> did you get "a few" to smoke? Did you go out of your way to stop at
> the store?
>
> You will continue to fail until you realize you MUST make changes.
> Find a sub for your bowling team for a few weeks, or months, or
> whatever. Cut yourself off from friends that continue to smoke. If
> you can switch shifts at work. Find a new job.
>
> Get the nicotine OUT of your system. Pick one: patches or lozenges,
> or better yet, neither. They apparently aren't working for you.
>
> It takes only a few days for nicotine to leave your system. After
> than it's the habit you need to break.
>
> Stop whining about busting quit after quit after quit. I don't
> believe you're making a serious attempt at quitting. You find it much
> to easy to "slip and smoke a few." Stop giving quitting lip service
> and just fucking do it!
>
> Yes, I'm pissed at you. Very pissed. You continue to fail to realize
> you DO have what it takes to quit. You really do. Take a good long
> look at yourself in the mirror and know that you ARE stronger than a
> little tube of white paper filled with tobacco. You ARE. Just stop
> it.
>
> {{{{{Becky}}}}}
>
> BessieBee (climbing off her high horse.)
>

At least you came clean with it. When you slip like this you cant
just sweep it under the carpet. This blog had some good programs at
the bottom of it http://quitsmokintoday.blogspot.com/ seem like they
could be a real big help. Really you have to build up your will power
or things are never going to change for you. You can do this, just no
more slip ups!

On Tue, 12 Feb 2008 02:14:10 GMT, robbb
<robbREMOVEALL@CAPSciggyfree.org> wrote:

>You girls are brave - I would get ripped a new butthole by people
>popping out of the woodwork if I said anything that resembled anything
>like this.

Yep. Me, too.

Sue

On Tue, 12 Feb 2008 01:43:59 GMT, BessieBee
<BessieBee@Idontsmokeanymore.com> wrote:

>
>>I had a small slip and smoked a few.
>
>Just what is it about the earliest part of a quit that you enjoy so
>much?
>
>As long as you keep sabotaging you quit your will never be successful.
>WTF is it so freakin' easy for you to bust a quit, time after time? Do
>you have "friends" that give you a stink stick when you beg for one?
>Do you keep "just a few" in your purse or coat pocket? Where the hell
>did you get "a few" to smoke? Did you go out of your way to stop at
>the store?
>
>You will continue to fail until you realize you MUST make changes.
>Find a sub for your bowling team for a few weeks, or months, or
>whatever. Cut yourself off from friends that continue to smoke. If
>you can switch shifts at work. Find a new job.
>
>Get the nicotine OUT of your system. Pick one: patches or lozenges,
>or better yet, neither. They apparently aren't working for you.
>
>It takes only a few days for nicotine to leave your system. After
>than it's the habit you need to break.
>
>Stop whining about busting quit after quit after quit. I don't
>believe you're making a serious attempt at quitting. You find it much
>to easy to "slip and smoke a few." Stop giving quitting lip service
>and just fucking do it!
>
>Yes, I'm pissed at you. Very pissed. You continue to fail to realize
>you DO have what it takes to quit. You really do. Take a good long
>look at yourself in the mirror and know that you ARE stronger than a
>little tube of white paper filled with tobacco. You ARE. Just stop
>it.
>
>{{{{{Becky}}}}}
>
>BessieBee (climbing off her high horse.)

Hallelujah!!! Yes, yes, yes. Thank You!!!!!! You said every thought
that was going through my head. My original skepticism wasn't met
very well so I figured I'd better keep quiet. Frustrating as hell.
She finds it so easy to fail.
Leslie, you are my heroine.
Sue

Saying "no comment" is a comment I suppose. Wish so much I had the
magic words to write or a magic wand to wave that would make you want
to quit enough to do the work you need to do. The reality is that I
can't quit for anyone other than myself. I'm kind of selfish about
my quit. If one of us is going to bust a quit, all I can say is
"better thee than me".

Becky, you know where to find the tools you need (and I'm not talking
about NRT that doesn't seem to work for you). We have them in our
FAQs, www.whyquit.com and scattered throughout the internet. For
real life support, there is also a Nicotine Anonymous meeting held in
Richmond every Thursday at 5:30 p.m. Location is St. Marks Episcopal
Church, 520 N. Boulevard.

No one in this group can do the work for you, no matter how much we'd
like. Bottom line is that its entirely up to you. Its not so much a
question of "will" power as it is of "want" power. If you want
smobriety badly enough, you'll do the work and you'll stay smober.

Hugs and best wishes.

Wayne



"Becky" <sobern2003@nospam.comcast.net> wrote in
news:Y96dndMVUObKbS3anZ2dnUVZ_hudnZ2d@comcast.com:

> I had a small slip and smoked a few. I am truly sorry. I cried when
I
> had to reset my meter. I did flush the rest of the pack and have
> started anew. Anyone who is sick to death of my contstant fuck
ups,I
> understand. Just know i am trying. I am really trying.
> Becky
> 3 hours, 53 minutes and 55 seconds. 8 cigarettes not smoked, saving
> $0.69. Life saved: 40 minutes.
>
>
>

Bullshit!!!

WTF kinda support is this?????????

For some, maybe not the elite, qutiting is a f*ng process.

For some of us, it will take many attempts and many failures. For some of
us, we have to do the ugly process, and hopefully it will spare a bunch of
others.

Lighten the fuck up.

Give the girl a break.

She is in the grips of her addiction battling her way. HER WAY. YOUR WAY
IS NOT THE ONLY WAY.

SUPPORT THE GIRL.

Fuck.

We all have different trials and tribulations and paths.....

YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO SHE WILL BE OF SERVICE TO...

She has said she is not done. It is not for anyone of us to say what way is
her way....

that is up to her.

I BELIEVE IN BECKY!!!!

CAN YOU ALL STAND BESIDE HER AND HELP HER ALONG THE WAY....

WHETHER OR NOT IT IS YOUR WAY????
EH?????

I believe in you Becky.

I know your heart's desire as it is mine and everyone else's here....

Time to surrender gf.... Just like you have done it before.

You have my private email address....
I do not have all the answers.
Surrender, honey, you know you want to.
Hugs and stuff from your quit bud,

Screw tuff love,

Best wishes,
Susan~Proud to be one of TG08's!!!
I have been breathing free for Two weeks, five days, 23 hours, 44 minutes
and 38 seconds. I have not held or inhaled 299 cigarettes, saving $56.97. I
have reclaimed 1 day, 55 minutes of my life to live it the way it is meant
to be lived.



--
Explore Your Ability and Integrity,
Challenge Your Fears,
And Most Importantly...
Share Your Love, Unconditionally
"BessieBee" <BessieBee@Idontsmokeanymore.com> wrote in message
news:3ot1r3hv44llk3qmv4ik15b3u419gud2er@4ax.com...
>
>>I had a small slip and smoked a few.
>
> Just what is it about the earliest part of a quit that you enjoy so
> much?
>
> As long as you keep sabotaging you quit your will never be successful.
> WTF is it so freakin' easy for you to bust a quit, time after time? Do
> you have "friends" that give you a stink stick when you beg for one?
> Do you keep "just a few" in your purse or coat pocket? Where the hell
> did you get "a few" to smoke? Did you go out of your way to stop at
> the store?
>
> You will continue to fail until you realize you MUST make changes.
> Find a sub for your bowling team for a few weeks, or months, or
> whatever. Cut yourself off from friends that continue to smoke. If
> you can switch shifts at work. Find a new job.
>
> Get the nicotine OUT of your system. Pick one: patches or lozenges,
> or better yet, neither. They apparently aren't working for you.
>
> It takes only a few days for nicotine to leave your system. After
> than it's the habit you need to break.
>
> Stop whining about busting quit after quit after quit. I don't
> believe you're making a serious attempt at quitting. You find it much
> to easy to "slip and smoke a few." Stop giving quitting lip service
> and just fucking do it!
>
> Yes, I'm pissed at you. Very pissed. You continue to fail to realize
> you DO have what it takes to quit. You really do. Take a good long
> look at yourself in the mirror and know that you ARE stronger than a
> little tube of white paper filled with tobacco. You ARE. Just stop
> it.
>
> {{{{{Becky}}}}}
>
> BessieBee (climbing off her high horse.)

F'off, SPAMMER, and stick your blogspot up your buttspot!

"maverick" <mattface22@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:f49087f9-ddd5-4606-8bfa-7c893c69472e@h11g2000prf.googlegroups.com...
> At least you came clean with it. When you slip like this you cant
> just sweep it under the carpet. This blog had some good programs at
> the bottom of it http://quitsmokintoday.blogspot.com/ seem like they
> could be a real big help. Really you have to build up your will power
> or things are never going to change for you. You can do this, just no
> more slip ups!
>

"maybe not the elite'?????

Susan, you have seen me thru my serial-quitting.
I have seen you thru yours.

Both you and Becky can do this.

Becky needs a fucking kick in the ass right now and she knows it.

'elite'?

you are kidding me, right???


Cat

DOF
ex-serial-quitter



"Susan H" <shmoozin@comnospamcast.net> wrote in message
news:rtydncA0j5HbkizanZ2dnUVZ_ruqnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
> Bullshit!!!
>
> WTF kinda support is this?????????
>
> For some, maybe not the elite, qutiting is a f*ng process.
>
> For some of us, it will take many attempts and many failures. For some of
> us, we have to do the ugly process, and hopefully it will spare a bunch of
> others.
>
> Lighten the fuck up.
>
> Give the girl a break.
>
> She is in the grips of her addiction battling her way. HER WAY. YOUR WAY
> IS NOT THE ONLY WAY.
>
> SUPPORT THE GIRL.
>
> Fuck.
>
> We all have different trials and tribulations and paths.....
>
> YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO SHE WILL BE OF SERVICE TO...
>
> She has said she is not done. It is not for anyone of us to say what way
> is her way....
>
> that is up to her.
>
> I BELIEVE IN BECKY!!!!
>
> CAN YOU ALL STAND BESIDE HER AND HELP HER ALONG THE WAY....
>
> WHETHER OR NOT IT IS YOUR WAY????
> EH?????
>
> I believe in you Becky.
>
> I know your heart's desire as it is mine and everyone else's here....
>
> Time to surrender gf.... Just like you have done it before.
>
> You have my private email address....
> I do not have all the answers.
> Surrender, honey, you know you want to.
> Hugs and stuff from your quit bud,
>
> Screw tuff love,
>
> Best wishes,
> Susan~Proud to be one of TG08's!!!
> I have been breathing free for Two weeks, five days, 23 hours, 44 minutes
> and 38 seconds. I have not held or inhaled 299 cigarettes, saving $56.97.
> I have reclaimed 1 day, 55 minutes of my life to live it the way it is
> meant to be lived.
>
>
>
> --
> Explore Your Ability and Integrity,
> Challenge Your Fears,
> And Most Importantly...
> Share Your Love, Unconditionally
> "BessieBee" <BessieBee@Idontsmokeanymore.com> wrote in message
> news:3ot1r3hv44llk3qmv4ik15b3u419gud2er@4ax.com...
>>
>>>I had a small slip and smoked a few.
>>
>> Just what is it about the earliest part of a quit that you enjoy so
>> much?
>>
>> As long as you keep sabotaging you quit your will never be successful.
>> WTF is it so freakin' easy for you to bust a quit, time after time? Do
>> you have "friends" that give you a stink stick when you beg for one?
>> Do you keep "just a few" in your purse or coat pocket? Where the hell
>> did you get "a few" to smoke? Did you go out of your way to stop at
>> the store?
>>
>> You will continue to fail until you realize you MUST make changes.
>> Find a sub for your bowling team for a few weeks, or months, or
>> whatever. Cut yourself off from friends that continue to smoke. If
>> you can switch shifts at work. Find a new job.
>>
>> Get the nicotine OUT of your system. Pick one: patches or lozenges,
>> or better yet, neither. They apparently aren't working for you.
>>
>> It takes only a few days for nicotine to leave your system. After
>> than it's the habit you need to break.
>>
>> Stop whining about busting quit after quit after quit. I don't
>> believe you're making a serious attempt at quitting. You find it much
>> to easy to "slip and smoke a few." Stop giving quitting lip service
>> and just fucking do it!
>>
>> Yes, I'm pissed at you. Very pissed. You continue to fail to realize
>> you DO have what it takes to quit. You really do. Take a good long
>> look at yourself in the mirror and know that you ARE stronger than a
>> little tube of white paper filled with tobacco. You ARE. Just stop
>> it.
>>
>> {{{{{Becky}}}}}
>>
>> BessieBee (climbing off her high horse.)
>
>

BTW,
tough love got me here.
Maybe you need some too Susan.
xoxo
---
2y 1m 4w 2d 12:32 smoke-free,
31,670 cigs not smoked,
$6,334.00 saved,
3m 2w 4d 23:10 life saved
Ex-serial-quitter!






"CuckooCat" <silly@laughing.net> wrote in message
news:7eidnUPO6KMFhCzanZ2dnUVZ_jCdnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
> "maybe not the elite'?????
>
> Susan, you have seen me thru my serial-quitting.
> I have seen you thru yours.
>
> Both you and Becky can do this.
>
> Becky needs a fucking kick in the ass right now and she knows it.
>
> 'elite'?
>
> you are kidding me, right???
>
>
> Cat
>
> DOF
> ex-serial-quitter
>
>
>
> "Susan H" <shmoozin@comnospamcast.net> wrote in message
> news:rtydncA0j5HbkizanZ2dnUVZ_ruqnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
>> Bullshit!!!
>>
>> WTF kinda support is this?????????
>>
>> For some, maybe not the elite, qutiting is a f*ng process.
>>
>> For some of us, it will take many attempts and many failures. For some
>> of us, we have to do the ugly process, and hopefully it will spare a
>> bunch of others.
>>
>> Lighten the fuck up.
>>
>> Give the girl a break.
>>
>> She is in the grips of her addiction battling her way. HER WAY. YOUR
>> WAY IS NOT THE ONLY WAY.
>>
>> SUPPORT THE GIRL.
>>
>> Fuck.
>>
>> We all have different trials and tribulations and paths.....
>>
>> YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO SHE WILL BE OF SERVICE TO...
>>
>> She has said she is not done. It is not for anyone of us to say what way
>> is her way....
>>
>> that is up to her.
>>
>> I BELIEVE IN BECKY!!!!
>>
>> CAN YOU ALL STAND BESIDE HER AND HELP HER ALONG THE WAY....
>>
>> WHETHER OR NOT IT IS YOUR WAY????
>> EH?????
>>
>> I believe in you Becky.
>>
>> I know your heart's desire as it is mine and everyone else's here....
>>
>> Time to surrender gf.... Just like you have done it before.
>>
>> You have my private email address....
>> I do not have all the answers.
>> Surrender, honey, you know you want to.
>> Hugs and stuff from your quit bud,
>>
>> Screw tuff love,
>>
>> Best wishes,
>> Susan~Proud to be one of TG08's!!!
>> I have been breathing free for Two weeks, five days, 23 hours, 44 minutes
>> and 38 seconds. I have not held or inhaled 299 cigarettes, saving $56.97.
>> I have reclaimed 1 day, 55 minutes of my life to live it the way it is
>> meant to be lived.
>>
>>
>>
>> --
>> Explore Your Ability and Integrity,
>> Challenge Your Fears,
>> And Most Importantly...
>> Share Your Love, Unconditionally
>> "BessieBee" <BessieBee@Idontsmokeanymore.com> wrote in message
>> news:3ot1r3hv44llk3qmv4ik15b3u419gud2er@4ax.com...
>>>
>>>>I had a small slip and smoked a few.
>>>
>>> Just what is it about the earliest part of a quit that you enjoy so
>>> much?
>>>
>>> As long as you keep sabotaging you quit your will never be successful.
>>> WTF is it so freakin' easy for you to bust a quit, time after time? Do
>>> you have "friends" that give you a stink stick when you beg for one?
>>> Do you keep "just a few" in your purse or coat pocket? Where the hell
>>> did you get "a few" to smoke? Did you go out of your way to stop at
>>> the store?
>>>
>>> You will continue to fail until you realize you MUST make changes.
>>> Find a sub for your bowling team for a few weeks, or months, or
>>> whatever. Cut yourself off from friends that continue to smoke. If
>>> you can switch shifts at work. Find a new job.
>>>
>>> Get the nicotine OUT of your system. Pick one: patches or lozenges,
>>> or better yet, neither. They apparently aren't working for you.
>>>
>>> It takes only a few days for nicotine to leave your system. After
>>> than it's the habit you need to break.
>>>
>>> Stop whining about busting quit after quit after quit. I don't
>>> believe you're making a serious attempt at quitting. You find it much
>>> to easy to "slip and smoke a few." Stop giving quitting lip service
>>> and just fucking do it!
>>>
>>> Yes, I'm pissed at you. Very pissed. You continue to fail to realize
>>> you DO have what it takes to quit. You really do. Take a good long
>>> look at yourself in the mirror and know that you ARE stronger than a
>>> little tube of white paper filled with tobacco. You ARE. Just stop
>>> it.
>>>
>>> {{{{{Becky}}}}}
>>>
>>> BessieBee (climbing off her high horse.)
>>
>>
>

Cat, I love ya.

Would love nothing more than to get together w/ ya.

But in my heart of hearts, it is not for anyone to kick anyone in the azz.

That is why, exactly why I hesitated, nearly did not come back.

Of all ppl, I really did not expect you to take this stand as it was you
that defended me in another group.

Again, we do not know what the bigger picture is here.

We do not know what Becky's path may be and that who it may be of service
to.

I am sorry, but I am not that powerful, but I was certainly grateful to have
you in my corner in another room and I have honered that.....

Maybe that needs to be done here.

Just my observation,

JMHO,

Thank you Cat for being there for me... it made a difference.

Hugs and stuff from Delmarva,

Susan
staying strong thanks to ya all. Becky included.

--
Explore Your Ability and Integrity,
Challenge Your Fears,
And Most Importantly...
Share Your Love, Unconditionally
"CuckooCat" <silly@laughing.net> wrote in message
news:7eidnUPO6KMFhCzanZ2dnUVZ_jCdnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
> "maybe not the elite'?????
>
> Susan, you have seen me thru my serial-quitting.
> I have seen you thru yours.
>
> Both you and Becky can do this.
>
> Becky needs a fucking kick in the ass right now and she knows it.
>
> 'elite'?
>
> you are kidding me, right???
>
>
> Cat
>
> DOF
> ex-serial-quitter
>
>
>
> "Susan H" <shmoozin@comnospamcast.net> wrote in message
> news:rtydncA0j5HbkizanZ2dnUVZ_ruqnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
>> Bullshit!!!
>>
>> WTF kinda support is this?????????
>>
>> For some, maybe not the elite, qutiting is a f*ng process.
>>
>> For some of us, it will take many attempts and many failures. For some
>> of us, we have to do the ugly process, and hopefully it will spare a
>> bunch of others.
>>
>> Lighten the fuck up.
>>
>> Give the girl a break.
>>
>> She is in the grips of her addiction battling her way. HER WAY. YOUR
>> WAY IS NOT THE ONLY WAY.
>>
>> SUPPORT THE GIRL.
>>
>> Fuck.
>>
>> We all have different trials and tribulations and paths.....
>>
>> YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO SHE WILL BE OF SERVICE TO...
>>
>> She has said she is not done. It is not for anyone of us to say what way
>> is her way....
>>
>> that is up to her.
>>
>> I BELIEVE IN BECKY!!!!
>>
>> CAN YOU ALL STAND BESIDE HER AND HELP HER ALONG THE WAY....
>>
>> WHETHER OR NOT IT IS YOUR WAY????
>> EH?????
>>
>> I believe in you Becky.
>>
>> I know your heart's desire as it is mine and everyone else's here....
>>
>> Time to surrender gf.... Just like you have done it before.
>>
>> You have my private email address....
>> I do not have all the answers.
>> Surrender, honey, you know you want to.
>> Hugs and stuff from your quit bud,
>>
>> Screw tuff love,
>>
>> Best wishes,
>> Susan~Proud to be one of TG08's!!!
>> I have been breathing free for Two weeks, five days, 23 hours, 44 minutes
>> and 38 seconds. I have not held or inhaled 299 cigarettes, saving $56.97.
>> I have reclaimed 1 day, 55 minutes of my life to live it the way it is
>> meant to be lived.
>>
>>
>>
>> --
>> Explore Your Ability and Integrity,
>> Challenge Your Fears,
>> And Most Importantly...
>> Share Your Love, Unconditionally
>> "BessieBee" <BessieBee@Idontsmokeanymore.com> wrote in message
>> news:3ot1r3hv44llk3qmv4ik15b3u419gud2er@4ax.com...
>>>
>>>>I had a small slip and smoked a few.
>>>
>>> Just what is it about the earliest part of a quit that you enjoy so
>>> much?
>>>
>>> As long as you keep sabotaging you quit your will never be successful.
>>> WTF is it so freakin' easy for you to bust a quit, time after time? Do
>>> you have "friends" that give you a stink stick when you beg for one?
>>> Do you keep "just a few" in your purse or coat pocket? Where the hell
>>> did you get "a few" to smoke? Did you go out of your way to stop at
>>> the store?
>>>
>>> You will continue to fail until you realize you MUST make changes.
>>> Find a sub for your bowling team for a few weeks, or months, or
>>> whatever. Cut yourself off from friends that continue to smoke. If
>>> you can switch shifts at work. Find a new job.
>>>
>>> Get the nicotine OUT of your system. Pick one: patches or lozenges,
>>> or better yet, neither. They apparently aren't working for you.
>>>
>>> It takes only a few days for nicotine to leave your system. After
>>> than it's the habit you need to break.
>>>
>>> Stop whining about busting quit after quit after quit. I don't
>>> believe you're making a serious attempt at quitting. You find it much
>>> to easy to "slip and smoke a few." Stop giving quitting lip service
>>> and just fucking do it!
>>>
>>> Yes, I'm pissed at you. Very pissed. You continue to fail to realize
>>> you DO have what it takes to quit. You really do. Take a good long
>>> look at yourself in the mirror and know that you ARE stronger than a
>>> little tube of white paper filled with tobacco. You ARE. Just stop
>>> it.
>>>
>>> {{{{{Becky}}}}}
>>>
>>> BessieBee (climbing off her high horse.)
>>
>>
>

On Mon, 11 Feb 2008 22:15:18 -0500, "Susan H"
<shmoozin@comnospamcast.net> wrote:

>Bullshit!!!
>
>WTF kinda support is this?????????
>
>For some, maybe not the elite, qutiting is a f*ng process.

ROFLMAO. I'm about as far from "elite" as you can get in this group.
I've offended just about everyone here at one time or another. Elite!
Piffle.

>
>For some of us, it will take many attempts and many failures. For some of
>us, we have to do the ugly process, and hopefully it will spare a bunch of
>others.
>
>Lighten the fuck up.
>
>Give the girl a break.

For what I'd like to say, I'm being good.

>
>She is in the grips of her addiction battling her way. HER WAY. YOUR WAY
>IS NOT THE ONLY WAY.

There are many ways to quit (and many ways to help), but the operative
word is "quit" which is *not* what she's doing. She's trying but a
steer can try.

>
>SUPPORT THE GIRL.
>
>Fuck.
>
>We all have different trials and tribulations and paths.....
>
>YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO SHE WILL BE OF SERVICE TO...
>
>She has said she is not done. It is not for anyone of us to say what way is
>her way....
>
>that is up to her.
>
>I BELIEVE IN BECKY!!!!
>
>CAN YOU ALL STAND BESIDE HER AND HELP HER ALONG THE WAY....
>
>WHETHER OR NOT IT IS YOUR WAY????
>EH?????
>
>I believe in you Becky.
>
>I know your heart's desire as it is mine and everyone else's here....
>
>Time to surrender gf.... Just like you have done it before.
>
>You have my private email address....
>I do not have all the answers.
>Surrender, honey, you know you want to.

This sounds like a Pentecostal sermon. Shouting and all.

>Hugs and stuff from your quit bud,
>
>Screw tuff love,

Maybe it will work. How do you know any different?
Sue
One year, ten months, three weeks, 22 hours, 54 minutes and 29
seconds. 22867 cigarettes not smoked, saving $3,807.67. Life saved: 11
weeks, 2 days, 9 hours, 35 minutes.

>
>Best wishes,
>Susan~Proud to be one of TG08's!!!
>I have been breathing free for Two weeks, five days, 23 hours, 44 minutes
>and 38 seconds. I have not held or inhaled 299 cigarettes, saving $56.97. I
>have reclaimed 1 day, 55 minutes of my life to live it the way it is meant
>to be lived.

> This sounds like a Pentecostal sermon. Shouting and all.
>


Oh, Sue, no you did not.

When I first read your reply to Becky...

I had to agree, oh smack, you were right, she was not ready..

But Becky says she is.......

I am not God. Ummm, are You? I don't think that you think you are.

Her experience, strength and hope in Smobriety, well down the road, it just
my help me or you or some one else.

Hmmmm. Every day is a gift. Who knows when one will slip and forget the
gift....

I never, ever, ever, thought that I would forget the gift.

Ya'all think ya are immune....
hmmm, better take your vaccination every day!

Because, no matter what ya all think, every flippin day is a gift...
Best not think otherwise....
Cuz the Nicodemon will bite your azz.

The truth.

"Becky" <sobern2003@nospam.comcast.net> wrote in message
news:Y96dndMVUObKbS3anZ2dnUVZ_hudnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
>I had a small slip and smoked a few. I am truly sorry. I cried when I had
>to reset my meter. I did flush the rest of the pack and have started anew.
>Anyone who is sick to death of my contstant fuck ups,I understand. Just
>know i am trying. I am really trying.

So many of us have been where you are, Becky.....just don't ever STOP
trying...don't ever give up on yourself....I won't!.

Sally
VOF

> Becky
> 3 hours, 53 minutes and 55 seconds. 8 cigarettes not smoked, saving $0.69.
> Life saved: 40 minutes.
>
>

Becky,

Hey, I'm new at this too and am the last one to give anyone advise... BUT,
I've watched you struggle with the lozenges and patches which obviously
aren't helping.

Have you tried Chantix? Maybe you have and can't tolerate it or have some
kind of problem with it. I haven't been around long enough to know. I just
know it's been a life saver for me and others.

Kathy
---
3w 2d 8:38 smoke-free, 1,156 cigs not smoked, $75.14 saved, 4d 0:20 life
saved

CuckooCat wrote:
> BTW,
> tough love got me here.
> Maybe you need some too Susan.
> xoxo
> ---
> 2y 1m 4w 2d 12:32 smoke-free,
> 31,670 cigs not smoked,
> $6,334.00 saved,
> 3m 2w 4d 23:10 life saved
> Ex-serial-quitter!
>
Amen to that! Some of you may not know that Cat was the queen of the
serial quitters in her day. There were times when I was tempted to get
in my car and drive 1000 miles just to bop her in the head. If anyone
here can help a serial quitter finally find the road to freedom, Cat
can. Becky - you listen to her, hear? Cat has traveled that long and
twisted road, and may be able to help you see through the fog.

Nice numbers there, Cat!

Maude
Rocker

Hi Becky

Wow, you got some responses there. But no-one asked the question I
want to ask you. I've been a serial quitter for 10 years myself,
remember - and it looks like I'd better be glad I never thought of
joining an online group during that time! ;-) I would have been in the
hotspot just like you.

Just know that everyone is rooting for you and that's why there are so
many responses. But don't get addicted to the attention! ;-)

OK, so seriously. Now what I'd like to ask is this: have you done a
post-mortem of what went wrong, what was it that made you light up?
Until you do this, and do this in enormous, painful, horrible detail,
you're not going to learn what it is that is bringing you down. How
about you write and tell us (or me, if you want to keep it private)
exactly what happened in the 2 or 3 hours prior to that first smoke?
I'd be interested to see what the sequence of events and emotions was.
Pay particular attention to the emotions, and try to see what happened
inside you to make you feel you couldn't go on.

You can beat this, but you have to bring a deeper understanding of
yourself into the picture.

SueR
One month, two weeks, one day, 18 hours, 4 minutes and 9 seconds. 187
cigarettes not smoked, saving R 187.01. Life saved: 15 hours, 35
minutes.

Hi Becky,

well you've had some responses to your post and it's obvious that there's
people here that care about you quitting. some seem to want to wrap you in
cotton wool and others kick you up the arse but they all want to help you
quit and hope that they can make a difference. this has always been one of
AS3s strong points, people really seem to care and want to make a difference
and i hope we also still think that everyone is free to take what they want
and leave the rest. (sometimes good advice when interacting with a diverse
group of people)

here's a few thoughts of my own..................

cigarettes don't just magically appear in our hands! how did you get yours?

if you know from past experience that you're likely to bust your quit in
times of stress then you have to stop yourself from being able to get your
hands on cigs until you've had a chance to think about it. a lot of quits
have been lost because cigs were too easy to get hold of, even a 10 min
drive to a shop could be enough to stop you but reaching into a drawer or
asking someone is too easy.

we either learn to win or we learn to loose. every time you bust a quit you
learn to loose a bit more. every time you resist the urge to smoke you win a
little bit more of the battle to stay quit. once you learn that you can
win, winning becomes easier.

it always seems to end up with thinking that one or two more cigs won't
really make a difference......................

that sort of thinking can go on for years............ha ha .......... if
you can put it off today then you can put it off again tomorrow and so
on......................and then one day it has made a difference and you're
looking at the doctor and trying to understand WTF happened. well it
happened one cigarette at a time and one cigarette will always lead to
another and another and another....................................that next
cigarette makes all the difference in the world. it's the difference between
freedom and being a slave to nicotine addiction.

next time you can't hold on any longer and have to have a cigarette just
think of this............. if you were putting a loaded gun to your head (or
a loved ones head) with half the bullets in it and the chamber
spun..........would you pull the trigger?
would you risk pulling the trigger just a fraction, then a fraction more and
a little bit more and a little bit more? when would you stop pulling the
trigger? when will you stop smoking?

this is your quit and you are going to have to figure out how to make it
work. making mistakes is natural but making the same mistakes is foolish.
trying is good but you have to learn as well otherwise you could spend years
'trying' and all the time you do more damage and you might even get to the
point where you say "I've been trying for years and i just can't quit so
I'll just take my chances and smoke" junkie thinking at its best!

i hope you do find a way to stop smoking. i hope that one day you are using
your experience to help others and i really hope you don't leave it until
it's too late!



wishing you the best

richard
VOF
















"Becky" <sobern2003@nospam.comcast.net> wrote in message
news:Y96dndMVUObKbS3anZ2dnUVZ_hudnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
>I had a small slip and smoked a few. I am truly sorry. I cried when I had
>to reset my meter. I did flush the rest of the pack and have started anew.
>Anyone who is sick to death of my contstant fuck ups,I understand. Just
>know i am trying. I am really trying.
> Becky
> 3 hours, 53 minutes and 55 seconds. 8 cigarettes not smoked, saving $0.69.
> Life saved: 40 minutes.
>
>

Well said, Richard with some excellent advice.
Sue

On Tue, 12 Feb 2008 13:53:51 GMT, "Richard" <rvardy@hotmail.com>
wrote:

>Hi Becky,
>
>well you've had some responses to your post and it's obvious that there's
>people here that care about you quitting. some seem to want to wrap you in
>cotton wool and others kick you up the arse but they all want to help you
>quit and hope that they can make a difference. this has always been one of
>AS3s strong points, people really seem to care and want to make a difference
>and i hope we also still think that everyone is free to take what they want
>and leave the rest. (sometimes good advice when interacting with a diverse
>group of people)
>
>here's a few thoughts of my own..................
>
>cigarettes don't just magically appear in our hands! how did you get yours?
>
>if you know from past experience that you're likely to bust your quit in
>times of stress then you have to stop yourself from being able to get your
>hands on cigs until you've had a chance to think about it. a lot of quits
>have been lost because cigs were too easy to get hold of, even a 10 min
>drive to a shop could be enough to stop you but reaching into a drawer or
>asking someone is too easy.
>
>we either learn to win or we learn to loose. every time you bust a quit you
>learn to loose a bit more. every time you resist the urge to smoke you win a
>little bit more of the battle to stay quit. once you learn that you can
>win, winning becomes easier.
>
>it always seems to end up with thinking that one or two more cigs won't
>really make a difference......................
>
>that sort of thinking can go on for years............ha ha .......... if
>you can put it off today then you can put it off again tomorrow and so
>on......................and then one day it has made a difference and you're
>looking at the doctor and trying to understand WTF happened. well it
>happened one cigarette at a time and one cigarette will always lead to
>another and another and another....................................that next
>cigarette makes all the difference in the world. it's the difference between
>freedom and being a slave to nicotine addiction.
>
>next time you can't hold on any longer and have to have a cigarette just
>think of this............. if you were putting a loaded gun to your head (or
>a loved ones head) with half the bullets in it and the chamber
>spun..........would you pull the trigger?
>would you risk pulling the trigger just a fraction, then a fraction more and
>a little bit more and a little bit more? when would you stop pulling the
>trigger? when will you stop smoking?
>
>this is your quit and you are going to have to figure out how to make it
>work. making mistakes is natural but making the same mistakes is foolish.
>trying is good but you have to learn as well otherwise you could spend years
>'trying' and all the time you do more damage and you might even get to the
>point where you say "I've been trying for years and i just can't quit so
>I'll just take my chances and smoke" junkie thinking at its best!
>
>i hope you do find a way to stop smoking. i hope that one day you are using
>your experience to help others and i really hope you don't leave it until
>it's too late!
>
>
>
>wishing you the best
>
>richard
>VOF
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>"Becky" <sobern2003@nospam.comcast.net> wrote in message
>news:Y96dndMVUObKbS3anZ2dnUVZ_hudnZ2d@comcast.com ...
>>I had a small slip and smoked a few. I am truly sorry. I cried when I had
>>to reset my meter. I did flush the rest of the pack and have started anew.
>>Anyone who is sick to death of my contstant fuck ups,I understand. Just
>>know i am trying. I am really trying.
>> Becky
>> 3 hours, 53 minutes and 55 seconds. 8 cigarettes not smoked, saving $0.69.
>> Life saved: 40 minutes.
>>
>>
>

On Mon, 11 Feb 2008 20:04:02 -0500, "Becky" <sobern2003@nospam.comcast.net> wrote:

>I had a small slip and smoked a few. I am truly sorry. I cried when I had to
>reset my meter. I did flush the rest of the pack and have started anew.
>Anyone who is sick to death of my contstant fuck ups,I understand. Just know
>i am trying. I am really trying.
> Becky
>3 hours, 53 minutes and 55 seconds. 8 cigarettes not smoked, saving $0.69.
>Life saved: 40 minutes.
>

Wow.... That's a surprise.

On Tue, 12 Feb 2008 00:11:55 -0500, "Susan H"
<shmoozin@comnospamcast.net> wrote:

>
>
>
>> This sounds like a Pentecostal sermon. Shouting and all.
>>
>
>
>Oh, Sue, no you did not.

Did not what?

>
>When I first read your reply to Becky...
>
>I had to agree, oh smack, you were right, she was not ready..
>
>But Becky says she is.......

She *always* says she is.

>
>I am not God. Ummm, are You? I don't think that you think you are.

Of course not. Which has what to do with what? I can't say when
she's going to actually stick to a quit. I hope she will and I'm
pretty certain that some day it will come to pass (I can use sermon
terms too).

>
>Her experience, strength and hope in Smobriety, well down the road, it just
>my help me or you or some one else.
>
>Hmmmm. Every day is a gift. Who knows when one will slip and forget the
>gift....

I don't think there is any limit to the number of slips one is
allowed.

>
>I never, ever, ever, thought that I would forget the gift.

I've forgotten it several times in my life.

>
>Ya'all think ya are immune....
>hmmm, better take your vaccination every day!

No, I certainly don't think I'm immune. Did I give you that idea? I
believe I ran through my career as a
quitter/starter/quitter/starter.....

>
>Because, no matter what ya all think, every flippin day is a gift...
>Best not think otherwise....
>Cuz the Nicodemon will bite your azz.
>
>The truth.

Absolutely.
Today I'm going to enjoy that gift by continuing with my tree pruning
project. One down and the biggun to go. I've come to the conclusion
that it's a wise thing to stick my mostly unused cell phone in my
pocket when I go up that ladder just in case I'm not killed or knocked
out if I fall off and have the sensibilities remaining to operate the
damned thing. GMF has instructions to post here in the event of my
demise. I'd hate for anyone to think that I'm no longer posting
because I blew my quit. Better dead. )
Have a nice day, Susan
Sue

>

So, you smoked! You let a crappy piece of paper wrapped around weeds
ruin your quit!
Now you are furious with yourself and disappointed and sad, etc etc.
Figure out why you smoked and think of things that you could haved
substituted instead and get right back to quitting. Here's a hint that
worked for me: If you don't beg, borrow, barter, buy or steal a
cigarette, you won't be able to smoke. Don't have them anywhere near
you.
I'll be watching and I expect to see your meter growing.
Ann

Thanks Maude!

Woof!


"Maude" <squirrel@rodent.net> wrote in message
news:47b18956$0$17323$4c368faf@roadrunner.com...
> CuckooCat wrote:
>> BTW,
>> tough love got me here.
>> Maybe you need some too Susan.
>> xoxo
>> ---
>> 2y 1m 4w 2d 12:32 smoke-free,
>> 31,670 cigs not smoked,
>> $6,334.00 saved,
>> 3m 2w 4d 23:10 life saved
>> Ex-serial-quitter!
>>
> Amen to that! Some of you may not know that Cat was the queen of the
> serial quitters in her day. There were times when I was tempted to get in
> my car and drive 1000 miles just to bop her in the head. If anyone here
> can help a serial quitter finally find the road to freedom, Cat can.
> Becky - you listen to her, hear? Cat has traveled that long and twisted
> road, and may be able to help you see through the fog.
>
> Nice numbers there, Cat!
>
> Maude
> Rocker

Hun,
I've been here for Becky for 4 years now. Sometimes, I feel bad for her
when she busts, sometimes I spank her.
Tough love is NOT telling someone that they are a 'no hope' case, as that
asshat called you in the other ng. To me, tough love is not saying oh
gee-darn, everytime someone fails. Sometimes, they need to hear truth. The
truth is, I am angry for Becky, not at her. I am frustrated and only wish
for her to find the freedom that she so deserves.
Same with you sweetie.
xoxo,
Cat
---
2y 2m 4:49 smoke-free, 31,691 cigs not smoked, $6,338.20 saved, 3m 2w 5d
0:55 life saved
Ex-serial-quitter!



"Susan H" <shmoozin@comnospamcast.net> wrote in message
news:7ZydnWaVL4mHhizanZ2dnUVZ_rGhnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
> Cat, I love ya.
>
> Would love nothing more than to get together w/ ya.
>
> But in my heart of hearts, it is not for anyone to kick anyone in the azz.
>
> That is why, exactly why I hesitated, nearly did not come back.
>
> Of all ppl, I really did not expect you to take this stand as it was you
> that defended me in another group.
>
> Again, we do not know what the bigger picture is here.
>
> We do not know what Becky's path may be and that who it may be of service
> to.
>
> I am sorry, but I am not that powerful, but I was certainly grateful to
> have you in my corner in another room and I have honered that.....
>
> Maybe that needs to be done here.
>
> Just my observation,
>
> JMHO,
>
> Thank you Cat for being there for me... it made a difference.
>
> Hugs and stuff from Delmarva,
>
> Susan
> staying strong thanks to ya all. Becky included.
>
> --
> Explore Your Ability and Integrity,
> Challenge Your Fears,
> And Most Importantly...
> Share Your Love, Unconditionally
> "CuckooCat" <silly@laughing.net> wrote in message
> news:7eidnUPO6KMFhCzanZ2dnUVZ_jCdnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
>> "maybe not the elite'?????
>>
>> Susan, you have seen me thru my serial-quitting.
>> I have seen you thru yours.
>>
>> Both you and Becky can do this.
>>
>> Becky needs a fucking kick in the ass right now and she knows it.
>>
>> 'elite'?
>>
>> you are kidding me, right???
>>
>>
>> Cat
>>
>> DOF
>> ex-serial-quitter
>>
>>
>>
>> "Susan H" <shmoozin@comnospamcast.net> wrote in message
>> news:rtydncA0j5HbkizanZ2dnUVZ_ruqnZ2d@comcast.com. ..
>>> Bullshit!!!
>>>
>>> WTF kinda support is this?????????
>>>
>>> For some, maybe not the elite, qutiting is a f*ng process.
>>>
>>> For some of us, it will take many attempts and many failures. For some
>>> of us, we have to do the ugly process, and hopefully it will spare a
>>> bunch of others.
>>>
>>> L