Small personal milestone

A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.

I was going to wait with doing these kind of things till a bit later,
I thought I would freak out in a pub. But for some reason I didn't. I
feel really happy )

I will still take things one day at a time though. I'm aware that it
probably won't always be like this. But today sure gave me a hell of a
load of motivation and courage!

Going to change my clothes now though

---
6d 17:22 smoke-free, 79 cigs not smoked, 8,78 EURO saved, 6:35 life saved

You have passed a *major* test. Congratulations. You are a very
strong person!
Sue
One year, nine months, three weeks, two days, 10 hours, 56 minutes and
32 seconds. 21894 cigarettes not smoked, saving $3,645.59. Life saved:
10 weeks, 6 days, 30 minutes.



On Sun, 13 Jan 2008 08:23:39 -0800 (PST), Elisa <eyehrev@gmail.com>
wrote:

>A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
>there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
>Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
>there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
>going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
>I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
>around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
>and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
>me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
>overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
>later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
>me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
>not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.
>
>I was going to wait with doing these kind of things till a bit later,
>I thought I would freak out in a pub. But for some reason I didn't. I
>feel really happy )
>
>I will still take things one day at a time though. I'm aware that it
>probably won't always be like this. But today sure gave me a hell of a
>load of motivation and courage!
>
>Going to change my clothes now though
>
>---
>6d 17:22 smoke-free, 79 cigs not smoked, 8,78 EURO saved, 6:35 life saved

Elisa! I totally agree with Sue. I have found in reading our stories
over the years, that there seem to be two types of quitters. Those
who really have to separate themselves from smokers and others who can
be around them and still remain smober. I'm like you. My boyfriend
when I quit, smoked and still smokes. We do still see each other and
when he's in my flat he will smoke occassionally but not as much as he
used to do. While I don't like the aftersmell all that much, I know
that he's addicted and he'll quit if and when he's ready. I know that
by staying smober I am taking care of myself, first and foremost, and
I do remain a reminder to him that it can be done. Is this perfect?
Maybe/maybe not, but it does work and that is what matters. I think
the big deal is that you have to remind yourself daily that SMOKING IS
NO LONGER AN OPTION for you. I do that daily, whether looking in the
mirror or getting here and focusing on my smobriety. I can then go
'out into the world' and be my smober self.

Just my 3-cent opinion.

Hang Tuff
Don't Puff

FlatironMike
Eleven months, two days, 13 hours, 32 minutes and 48 seconds. 6731
cigarettes not smoked, saving $2,019.38. Life saved: 3 weeks, 2 days,
8 hours, 55 minutes.

Feel the pride! :-)

This is great -- I used to put myself in similar situations in the
early weeks -- stepping outside with smoking friends, feeling the
urge, often not thinking of much more then it's not an option, then
feeling the pride and recognizing that it is possible to not smoke.
Just don't smoke -- simple.

It gets so much better -- the sense of freedom is great. This past
weekend I got a whiff of some smokers outside a restaurant. I
commented to the friend with me 'Glad I quit' .. 3 years later still
glad, still proud, still happy I stuck it out.

Cheers!

-- Marvin

On Jan 13, 11:23*am, Elisa <eyeh...@gmail.com> wrote:
> A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
> there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
> Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
> there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
> going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
> I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
> around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
> and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
> me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
> overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
> later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
> me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
> not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.
>
> I was going to wait with doing these kind of things till a bit later,
> I thought I would freak out in a pub. But for some reason I didn't. I
> feel really happy )
>
> I will still take things one day at a time though. I'm aware that it
> probably won't always be like this. But today sure gave me a hell of a
> load of motivation and courage!
>
> Going to change my clothes now though
>
> ---
> 6d 17:22 smoke-free, 79 cigs not smoked, 8,78 EURO saved, 6:35 life saved

On Jan 13, 11:23�am, Elisa <eyeh...@gmail.com> wrote:
> A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
> there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
> Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
> there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
> going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
> I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
> around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
> and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
> me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
> overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
> later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
> me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
> not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.
>
> I was going to wait with doing these kind of things till a bit later,
> I thought I would freak out in a pub. But for some reason I didn't. I
> feel really happy )
>
> I will still take things one day at a time though. I'm aware that it
> probably won't always be like this. But today sure gave me a hell of a
> load of motivation and courage!
>
> Going to change my clothes now though
>
> ---
> 6d 17:22 smoke-free, 79 cigs not smoked, 8,78 EURO saved, 6:35 life saved

That's great! I haven't been tested like that yet since I must be the
last smoker left in the city. You are really doing well.

Grace- 25 days free

Thank God for the good days!

You faced a huge hurdle and came out with flying colors! Good on you!!!!!!

Cheers!
Cat



"Elisa" <eyehrev@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:c5189c32-10c3-4711-8d74-1b9b7efce9ac@q39g2000hsf.googlegroups.com...
>A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
> there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
> Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
> there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
> going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
> I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
> around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
> and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
> me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
> overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
> later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
> me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
> not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.
>
> I was going to wait with doing these kind of things till a bit later,
> I thought I would freak out in a pub. But for some reason I didn't. I
> feel really happy )
>
> I will still take things one day at a time though. I'm aware that it
> probably won't always be like this. But today sure gave me a hell of a
> load of motivation and courage!
>
> Going to change my clothes now though
>
> ---
> 6d 17:22 smoke-free, 79 cigs not smoked, 8,78 EURO saved, 6:35 life saved

Not to take down your high
be careful the day after being with smokers. I find for myself the day after
I have craves if I am exposed to second hand smoke.
Comgrat on geting past a trigger in style and for being a friend
--
Lynn VOF Leaper
"Everyone seems normal until you get to know them."



"Elisa" <eyehrev@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:c5189c32-10c3-4711-8d74-1b9b7efce9ac@q39g2000hsf.googlegroups.com...
>A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
> there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
> Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
> there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
> going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
> I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
> around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
> and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
> me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
> overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
> later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
> me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
> not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.
>
> I was going to wait with doing these kind of things till a bit later,
> I thought I would freak out in a pub. But for some reason I didn't. I
> feel really happy )
>
> I will still take things one day at a time though. I'm aware that it
> probably won't always be like this. But today sure gave me a hell of a
> load of motivation and courage!
>
> Going to change my clothes now though
>
> ---
> 6d 17:22 smoke-free, 79 cigs not smoked, 8,78 EURO saved, 6:35 life saved

NOTHING small about that milestone, it's HUGE! And it's just one more
reinforcement in your quit armor.

Be very pleased with yourself and know that it will just keep getting
better!!


--
BessieBee

"My face, I don't mind it because I am behind it.
It's the folks out front that get the jolt."
~My Grandma, 1898-1981~

Small? That's a huge milestone. Congrats!

--
Steven Wright.: "Is it weird in here, or is it just me?"
-
"Elisa" <> schreef in bericht ...
>A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
> there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
> Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
> there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
> going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
> I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
> around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
> and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
> me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
> overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
> later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
> me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
> not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.
>
> I was going to wait with doing these kind of things till a bit later,
> I thought I would freak out in a pub. But for some reason I didn't. I
> feel really happy )
>
> I will still take things one day at a time though. I'm aware that it
> probably won't always be like this. But today sure gave me a hell of a
> load of motivation and courage!
>
> Going to change my clothes now though
>
> ---
> 6d 17:22 smoke-free, 79 cigs not smoked, 8,78 EURO saved, 6:35 life saved

Thanks all of you for your support and your nice words, it is really
great and heartening to be here.

Elisa xx

Great job Elisa! We too, were worried about that first exposure to smoke,
and it completely turned us off. Glad it went well for you , and you are a
great friend for putting yourself at risk!

/me gives you a big pat on the back!

Sarah and Steve
"Elisa" <eyehrev@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:c5189c32-10c3-4711-8d74-1b9b7efce9ac@q39g2000hsf.googlegroups.com...
:A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
: there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
: Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
: there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
: going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
: I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
: around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
: and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
: me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
: overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
: later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
: me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
: not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.
:
: I was going to wait with doing these kind of things till a bit later,
: I thought I would freak out in a pub. But for some reason I didn't. I
: feel really happy )
:
: I will still take things one day at a time though. I'm aware that it
: probably won't always be like this. But today sure gave me a hell of a
: load of motivation and courage!
:
: Going to change my clothes now though
:
: ---
: 6d 17:22 smoke-free, 79 cigs not smoked, 8,78 EURO saved, 6:35 life saved

Instead of taking 26 puffs of smoke, Elisa spoketh upon us:

>A friend of mine works in a coffeeplace/pub on Sunday afternoons. I go
>there almost every Sunday to say hi and have a drink and a chat.
>Today I wasn't gonna go, because she smokes, and customers can smoke
>there too. But this afternoon she texted me, asking if I still was
>going to come, cause she had some problems and she needed to talk...
>I thought, hell nooo!!! Not today!! I was still in my pyjamas, hanging
>around in my apartment, doing some occupational therapy like vacuuming
>and stuff, hehe.. But since she is such a dear, and always there for
>me, I thought to myself "you self-centered person, move your ass
>overthere!". Eventually I went there, had a coffee, a glass of wine
>later, I was surrounded by 3 smoking people after a while, and it left
>me rather cold. The only thing that disturbed me was the smoke (but
>not as in "I want a cigarette too"). But in general everything was OK.

Congratulations on a wonderful day filled with all the right things to
do! Cheers!

--
Tihomir 7M2W, Knin, HR 44°N 16°E
http://www.usenetpedia.com/google-groups.html

The thing that contributes to anyone's reaching the goal he wants is
simple wanting that goal badly enough. - Charles E. Wilson