thank you

For all of the private messages, cards and condolences sent. I would
send you all a private message but it is too hard right now. I found
comfort in knowing we did everything we could do and that he was never
alone. Although I only have one brother ( who couldn't be bothered to show
up and bury the hatchet for 1 day and left his kids to deal with this with
their other grandparents)I have a huge amount of aunts and uncles and
cousins to lean on.
David asked how I helped my kids thru this and well you have to the
best way you know how. They knew dad had cancer and knew every step he took
to beat this. They weren't ready to hear that the cancer was winning just
after x-mas and they seen him every week and the toil it was taking on him.
they didn't see him the last week it would of been too hard for any kid and
most adults can see their loved ones whittled down to nothing eating baby
food and not being able to talk
I wouldn't be able to do it alone and thank goodness I have such an
amazing man. Scott told the kids on Tuesday that he passed.( I was with mom)
the funeral and the wake were very hard on them but we were there to help
them deal with it. at one point I had my hand holding my moms hands and
rubbing my youngest head with the other at the funeral. things you just have
to do.
For the next while I won't be around posting. mom wants to get moved and
things to pack ,finding a place she wants and can afford to go, sending
thank you's and just grieving.I should find a rule book for this stuff
Robin said he will post the FAQ's for me this week again ( thanks again
sweetie). I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post. you
all were in my thoughts esp when that fleeting thought to smoke came
creeping along but I am strong.
--
Lynn VOF+ Leaper
"Everyone seems normal until you get to know them."

On Sun, 18 May 2008 18:42:07 -0300, "Lynn"
<lynn.scott@ns.spammenotsympatico.ca> wrote:

> For all of the private messages, cards and condolences sent. I would
>send you all a private message but it is too hard right now. I found
>comfort in knowing we did everything we could do and that he was never
>alone. Although I only have one brother ( who couldn't be bothered to show
>up and bury the hatchet for 1 day and left his kids to deal with this with
>their other grandparents)I have a huge amount of aunts and uncles and
>cousins to lean on.
> David asked how I helped my kids thru this and well you have to the
>best way you know how. They knew dad had cancer and knew every step he took
>to beat this. They weren't ready to hear that the cancer was winning just
>after x-mas and they seen him every week and the toil it was taking on him.
>they didn't see him the last week it would of been too hard for any kid and
>most adults can see their loved ones whittled down to nothing eating baby
>food and not being able to talk
> I wouldn't be able to do it alone and thank goodness I have such an
>amazing man. Scott told the kids on Tuesday that he passed.( I was with mom)
>the funeral and the wake were very hard on them but we were there to help
>them deal with it. at one point I had my hand holding my moms hands and
>rubbing my youngest head with the other at the funeral. things you just have
>to do.
> For the next while I won't be around posting. mom wants to get moved and
>things to pack ,finding a place she wants and can afford to go, sending
>thank you's and just grieving.I should find a rule book for this stuff
> Robin said he will post the FAQ's for me this week again ( thanks again
>sweetie). I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post. you
>all were in my thoughts esp when that fleeting thought to smoke came
>creeping along but I am strong.

Thank you for taking the time to check in, Lynn. My thoughts are with
you and your family.
Sue

On May 18, 5:42*pm, "Lynn" <lynn.sc...@ns.spammenotsympatico.ca>
wrote:
> * * * For all of the private messages, cards and condolences sent. Iwould
> send you all a private message but it is too hard right now. *I found
> comfort in knowing we did everything we could do and that he was never
> alone. Although I only have one brother ( who couldn't be bothered to show
> up and bury the hatchet for 1 day and left his kids to deal with this with
> their other grandparents)I have a huge amount of aunts and uncles and
> cousins to lean on.
> * * * *David asked how I helped my kids thru this and well you have to the
> best way you know how. They knew dad had cancer and knew every step he took
> to beat this. They weren't ready to hear that the cancer was winning just
> after x-mas and they seen him every week and the toil it was taking on him..
> they didn't see him the last week it would of been too hard for any kid and
> most adults can see their loved ones whittled down to nothing eating baby
> food and not being able to talk
> * * * * I wouldn't be able to do it alone and thank goodness I have such an
> amazing man. Scott told the kids on Tuesday that he passed.( I was with mom)
> the funeral and the wake were very hard on them but we were there to help
> them deal with it. at one point I had my hand holding my moms hands and
> rubbing my youngest head with the other at the funeral. things you just have
> to do.
> * * For the next while I won't be around posting. mom wants to get moved and
> things to pack ,finding a place she wants and can afford to go, sending
> thank you's and just grieving.I should find a rule book for this stuff
> *Robin said he will post the FAQ's for me this week again ( thanks again
> sweetie). I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post. you
> all were in my thoughts esp when that fleeting thought to smoke came
> creeping along but I am strong.
> --
> Lynn VOF+ Leaper
> "Everyone seems normal until you get to know them."

Oh Lynn, know that you are in our hearts and prayers. My god how
difficult. I hope somewhere it brings you comfort tthat there are a
lot of people out here to whom you matter a lot. Stephanie

"Lynn" <lynn.scott@ns.spammenotsympatico.ca> wrote in message
news:4830a2a8$0$4045$9a566e8b@news.aliant.net...
> For all of the private messages, cards and condolences sent. I would
> send you all a private message but it is too hard right now. I found
> comfort in knowing we did everything we could do and that he was never
> alone. Although I only have one brother ( who couldn't be bothered to show
> up and bury the hatchet for 1 day and left his kids to deal with this with
> their other grandparents)I have a huge amount of aunts and uncles and
> cousins to lean on.
> David asked how I helped my kids thru this and well you have to the
> best way you know how. They knew dad had cancer and knew every step he
> took to beat this. They weren't ready to hear that the cancer was winning
> just after x-mas and they seen him every week and the toil it was taking
> on him. they didn't see him the last week it would of been too hard for
> any kid and most adults can see their loved ones whittled down to nothing
> eating baby food and not being able to talk
> I wouldn't be able to do it alone and thank goodness I have such an
> amazing man. Scott told the kids on Tuesday that he passed.( I was with
> mom) the funeral and the wake were very hard on them but we were there to
> help them deal with it. at one point I had my hand holding my moms hands
> and rubbing my youngest head with the other at the funeral. things you
> just have to do.
> For the next while I won't be around posting. mom wants to get moved
> and things to pack ,finding a place she wants and can afford to go,
> sending thank you's and just grieving.I should find a rule book for this
> stuff
> Robin said he will post the FAQ's for me this week again ( thanks again
> sweetie). I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post.
> you all were in my thoughts esp when that fleeting thought to smoke came
> creeping along but I am strong.
> --
> Lynn VOF+ Leaper
> "Everyone seems normal until you get to know them."
>
>
Sweet Lynn,

My heart is with you and family. Lots of hugs, too.
Don't worry about posting for a while. Take time with
yourself and loved ones.

jacks, VOF
>
>

On May 18, 6:13*pm, "jacks" <ja...@nospam.corn> wrote:
> "Lynn" <lynn.sc...@ns.spammenotsympatico.ca> wrote in message
>
> news:4830a2a8$0$4045$9a566e8b@news.aliant.net...
>
>
>
> > * * *For all of the private messages, cards and condolences sent. I would
> > send you all a private message but it is too hard right now. *I found
> > comfort in knowing we did everything we could do and that he was never
> > alone. Although I only have one brother ( who couldn't be bothered to show
> > up and bury the hatchet for 1 day and left his kids to deal with this with
> > their other grandparents)I have a huge amount of aunts and uncles and
> > cousins to lean on.
> > * * * David asked how I helped my kids thru this and well you haveto the
> > best way you know how. They knew dad had cancer and knew every step he
> > took to beat this. They weren't ready to hear that the cancer was winning
> > just after x-mas and they seen him every week and the toil it was taking
> > on him. they didn't see him the last week it would of been too hard for
> > any kid and most adults can see their loved ones whittled down to nothing
> > eating baby food and not being able to talk
> > * * * *I wouldn't be able to do it alone and thank goodness I have such an
> > amazing man. Scott told the kids on Tuesday that he passed.( I was with
> > mom) the funeral and the wake were very hard on them but we were there to
> > help them deal with it. at one point I had my hand holding my moms hands
> > and rubbing my youngest head with the other at the funeral. things you
> > just have to do.
> > * *For the next while I won't be around posting. mom wants to get moved
> > and things to pack ,finding a place she wants and can afford to go,
> > sending thank you's and just grieving.I should find a rule book for this
> > stuff
> > Robin said he will post the FAQ's for me this week again ( thanks again
> > sweetie). I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post.
> > you all were in my thoughts esp when that fleeting thought to smoke came
> > creeping along but I am strong.
> > --
> > Lynn VOF+ Leaper
> > "Everyone seems normal until you get to know them."
>
> Sweet Lynn,
>
> My heart is with you and family. Lots of hugs, too.
> Don't worry about posting for a while. Take time with
> yourself and loved ones.
>
> jacks, VOF
>
>
>
> - Hide quoted text -
>
> - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text -
>
> - Show quoted text -

Lynn - We know how hard this it. Our thoughts and prayers are w/you
and family. God Bless.
Hugs,
Pam

Having been there...I can assure you that the big empty hole in the
soul slowly goes away. But always something missing. Even time
doesn't heal everything it seems.

Hugs,

Wayne


"Lynn" <lynn.scott@ns.spammenotsympatico.ca> wrote in
news:4830a2a8$0$4045$9a566e8b@news.aliant.net:

> For all of the private messages, cards and condolences sent.
I
> would
> send you all a private message but it is too hard right now. I
found
> comfort in knowing we did everything we could do and that he was
never
> alone. Although I only have one brother ( who couldn't be bothered
to
> show up and bury the hatchet for 1 day and left his kids to deal
with
> this with their other grandparents)I have a huge amount of aunts
and
> uncles and cousins to lean on.
> David asked how I helped my kids thru this and well you
have to
> the
> best way you know how. They knew dad had cancer and knew every
step he
> took to beat this. They weren't ready to hear that the cancer was
> winning just after x-mas and they seen him every week and the toil
it
> was taking on him. they didn't see him the last week it would of
been
> too hard for any kid and most adults can see their loved ones
whittled
> down to nothing eating baby food and not being able to talk
> I wouldn't be able to do it alone and thank goodness I
have
> such an
> amazing man. Scott told the kids on Tuesday that he passed.( I was
> with mom) the funeral and the wake were very hard on them but we
were
> there to help them deal with it. at one point I had my hand
holding my
> moms hands and rubbing my youngest head with the other at the
funeral.
> things you just have to do.
> For the next while I won't be around posting. mom wants to get
> moved and
> things to pack ,finding a place she wants and can afford to go,
> sending thank you's and just grieving.I should find a rule book
for
> this stuff
> Robin said he will post the FAQ's for me this week again ( thanks
> again
> sweetie). I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to
> post. you all were in my thoughts esp when that fleeting thought
to
> smoke came creeping along but I am strong.

>I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post.

Post when the time is right for you, Lynn.

I remember when my mother was dying and after she passed thinking,
"How can everyone go on like nothing has happened?? My mother just
died!!" I think that's normal and before long rational thought
returned and I think that's when the "healing" started.

My thoughts of Mom now have nothing to do with the end of her life. I
have to make myself think of those weeks. Those last few weeks and
the immediate aftermath of her death have faded just like the memories
of the pain of labor and childbirth.

I'm sending a big warm hug to you and your family with the hope that
all your memories of your dad will begin with a smile.

{{{{{{{{{{Lynn}}}}}}}}}}

--
BessieBee
"Why isn't the number 11 pronounced onety-one?"

On May 18, 7:30*pm, BessieBee <Bessie...@fakeaddress.com> wrote:
> >I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post.
>
> Post when the time is right for you, Lynn.
>
> I remember when my mother was dying and after she passed thinking,
> "How can everyone go on like nothing has happened?? *My mother just
> died!!" *I think that's normal and before long rational thought
> returned and I think that's when the "healing" started.
>
> My thoughts of Mom now have nothing to do with the end of her life. *I
> have to make myself think of those weeks. *Those last few weeks and
> the immediate aftermath of her death have faded just like the memories
> of the pain of labor and childbirth.
>
> I'm sending a big warm hug to you and your family with the hope that
> all your memories of your dad will begin with a smile.
>
> {{{{{{{{{{Lynn}}}}}}}}}}
>
> --
> BessieBee
> "Why isn't the number 11 pronounced onety-one?"

I remember this from when my Dad died. Within a week the World Series
started and I was genuinely perplexed like "uh don't they know? I
mean this can't go on as usual, you know?"

What a universal experience made no less horrifying that we share it.
I agree that the actual pain of death and aftermath passes into happy
recollections. It takes a lot of time. For me it has been 22 1/2
years, and there are still tough moments.

Don't even get me started on the prospect of someday losing my Mom. I
genuinely cannot bear the thought.

The one thing I tell people I love when they are going through loss is
that I am there to listen. For as long as they want to talk about
their loved one, their history, stories from childhood, what have
you. THat has seemed tohelp some, in the past.

On May 18, 5:42�pm, "Lynn" <lynn.sc...@ns.spammenotsympatico.ca>
wrote:
> � � � For all of the private messages, cards and condolences sent. I would
> send you all a private message but it is too hard right now. �I found
> comfort in knowing we did everything we could do and that he was never
> alone. Although I only have one brother ( who couldn't be bothered to show
> up and bury the hatchet for 1 day and left his kids to deal with this with
> their other grandparents)I have a huge amount of aunts and uncles and
> cousins to lean on.
> � � � �David asked how I helped my kids thru this and well you have to the
> best way you know how. They knew dad had cancer and knew every step he took
> to beat this. They weren't ready to hear that the cancer was winning just
> after x-mas and they seen him every week and the toil it was taking on him..
> they didn't see him the last week it would of been too hard for any kid and
> most adults can see their loved ones whittled down to nothing eating baby
> food and not being able to talk
> � � � � I wouldn't be able to do it alone and thank goodness I have such an
> amazing man. Scott told the kids on Tuesday that he passed.( I was with mom)
> the funeral and the wake were very hard on them but we were there to help
> them deal with it. at one point I had my hand holding my moms hands and
> rubbing my youngest head with the other at the funeral. things you just have
> to do.
> � � For the next while I won't be around posting. mom wants to get moved and
> things to pack ,finding a place she wants and can afford to go, sending
> thank you's and just grieving.I should find a rule book for this stuff
> �Robin said he will post the FAQ's for me this week again ( thanksagain
> sweetie). I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post. you
> all were in my thoughts esp when that fleeting thought to smoke came
> creeping along but I am strong.
> --
> Lynn VOF+ Leaper
> "Everyone seems normal until you get to know them."

Thank you for touching base with us despite all you are going through.
Rule #1 is take care of yourself while you are taking care of everyone
else. I will miss you during the time you are away, so please come
back when you can.

Annette

{{{{{{{{{{{Lynn}}}}}}}}}}}}

Take your time and keep it simple. Right now you need to help your
Mom and you need to heel yourself as well. As time goes on you will
realize how much stress and energy you were putting out, but you have
been. Life seems very strange right after the death of a loved one
but over time it does get better. Keep it simple and know that many
here love you.

FlatironMike
One year, three months, one week, one day, 19 minutes and 52 seconds.
9240 cigarettes not smoked, saving $2,777.83. Life saved: 4 weeks, 4
days, 2 hours, 0 minutes.

On May 18, 4:42*pm, "Lynn" <lynn.sc...@ns.spammenotsympatico.ca>
wrote:
> * * *but I am strong.

Yeah, you are very strong!
I wanna be be to my parents what you are to yours!

On May 18, 5:42*pm, "Lynn" <lynn.sc...@ns.spammenotsympatico.ca>
wrote:
> * * * For all of the private messages, cards and condolences sent. Iwould
> send you all a private message but it is too hard right now. *I found
> comfort in knowing we did everything we could do and that he was never
> alone. Although I only have one brother ( who couldn't be bothered to show
> up and bury the hatchet for 1 day and left his kids to deal with this with
> their other grandparents)I have a huge amount of aunts and uncles and
> cousins to lean on.
> * * * *David asked how I helped my kids thru this and well you have to the
> best way you know how. They knew dad had cancer and knew every step he took
> to beat this. They weren't ready to hear that the cancer was winning just
> after x-mas and they seen him every week and the toil it was taking on him..
> they didn't see him the last week it would of been too hard for any kid and
> most adults can see their loved ones whittled down to nothing eating baby
> food and not being able to talk
> * * * * I wouldn't be able to do it alone and thank goodness I have such an
> amazing man. Scott told the kids on Tuesday that he passed.( I was with mom)
> the funeral and the wake were very hard on them but we were there to help
> them deal with it. at one point I had my hand holding my moms hands and
> rubbing my youngest head with the other at the funeral. things you just have
> to do.
> * * For the next while I won't be around posting. mom wants to get moved and
> things to pack ,finding a place she wants and can afford to go, sending
> thank you's and just grieving.I should find a rule book for this stuff
> *Robin said he will post the FAQ's for me this week again ( thanks again
> sweetie). I will continue to read but just can't get the ummph to post. you
> all were in my thoughts esp when that fleeting thought to smoke came
> creeping along but I am strong.
> --
> Lynn VOF+ Leaper
> "Everyone seems normal until you get to know them."

Lynn,
My heart goes out to you.
You're in my thoughts.
(((((( Lynn )))))

Steve

Big hugs and love, Lynn. You are in my thoughts.

Ashley