"Bully" <bully62@proteinbars.co.ok> wrote in message
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> In news:1180541948.053578.101790@k79g2000hse.googlegr oups.com,
> Prisoner at War <prisoner_at_war@yahoo.com> typed:
> > On May 26, 10:37 pm, "Stephan Carydakis" <scaryda...@nospam.gmail.com>
> > wrote:
> >>
> >>
> >> You never been married? Seems to me "happy" and "4 wives" in the
> >> same sentence would either classify as an oxymoron or qualify for a
> >> joke. If you are married, just remember one important thing. And
> >> it's really my marriage-moto: "It's always a pleasure..."
> >>
> >> Steph.
> >
> >
> >
> > Good point!
> >
> > Single guys like me think that having a wife is simply having a
> > girlfriend 24/7 -- but it's not like that, is it? I've only lived
> > with a girl once, and it was great, but I guess that was just
> > beginner's luck! Indeed, it eventually ended, so I guess that just
> > proves your point, too.
>
> If a guy is married to the "wrong" gal, whose fault is that???
My 2 cents...
I don't think there's an absolute "wrong" or "right" when it comes to
marriage mates. I think the poles are more like "more right" and perhaps
"just about wrong" - just semantics perhaps. Most people would say that
their ex-mate was "wrong" for them after they come out of a failed marriage
anyways wouldn't they? I think the blame must be shared by all parties in
any failed relationship wether it's a marriage, friendship or business
relationship. Sure, sometimes one person is doing more of the things that
have a negative influence on a relationship, but it is rarely all one-sided.
I think a critical time in any relationship is at the beginning. We can make
bad decisions or good decisions. For example, being attracted to someone
physically and mentally, enjoying their company, finding them funny etc is
certainly a good start but these qualities aren't the most important things
in a long-term relationship. Other things have to be considered on a
praqctical level. I also think people have unrealistic expectations of what
marriage should "feel" like and end up being disappointed disillusioned.
>
> --
> Bully
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>
> "A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees
> the opportunity in every difficulty." Sir Winston Churchill
>
>
Steph.